Inside my head it was like a pressure cooker that hormones and walking the uncompleted but soon to be completed path of physical transition released eliminating intense anxiety but there were many years I lived with this extreme dissonance and all its consequences.
Early on, especially in my teen years, the wish to escape this pressure, confusion, anxiety and heartache made suicide an extremely attractive option but I also had and have a very strong will to live.
For me being transsexual was being held in tension between this will to live and death as release and I have really never known any other way of life.
I often think this must be what war is like where death is imminent and the desire to survive is heightened to the point where your brain is like a piano wire always stretched to its limits.
Beautiful music may be created but the piano wire suffers for the creation.
I was frantic to find reasons to live so I would not be pulled into the temptation to escape myself but everything I did to prop up this life was being built on quicksand so every support was temporary and would soon lose its effectiveness throwing me back into despair.
Part of the anxiety I carried came from knowing that I was running out of time as I ran from place to place looking for a solution while at the same time avoiding the only solution that would work.
This frantic state makes us very self destructive because we are desperate for escape.
All sorts of addictions are likely to come out of it. Interpersonal relationships are often very unstable including employment, spouses, friends and family so when you look back over the path you have walked all you see is carnage but yet sometimes also beauty.
Maybe this is in the children you have created or the friendships that have endured as you and friend become bonded together from the intimacy that pain creates or the simple beauty of surviving that which is almost impossible to survive as we are asked to survive it.
The attempted suicide rate is 41% for transsexuals.
My question is this.
Separate from physically transitioning what did you do or what do you do to survive even when those methods may have been or are self destructive.
How did you cope and what advice would you give others to help them survive?
Here is a link concerning suicide rates and other challenges to being transsexual http://www.livescience.com/11208-hig...er-people.html