I read that the road to acceptance about transition by our SOs (in my case my wife) is similar to the stages of grief over a lost one. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
I can certainly see parallels, and my wife has been thru' them all. However, my wife goes thru' them in no particular order, revisits old favorites, and and can stay on any one for a week or more.
My wife can be totally supporting, and even optimistic about our future for a few days, then call me a freak, then weep at our prospects, and suggest a BA instead of full transition.
Any of you in commited relationships going thru' a roller caster of feelings/messages/emotions from your SO?
Also, my wife has cancer, and I'm the caregiver. She knows she could not cope without me, as she no longer drives, and has about three Drs. appts. per week, and needs help dressing, and bathing, so sometimes I think she hasn't thrown me out because she physically can't live without me. At this point our marriage is one of mutual need, not love. Do you think we stand a chance?
Final question...I promise. Can ANY loved one really understand GD, and the need to transition?