I was up front with my SO. On our first date I told her I dressed to relax, it was something that I enjoyed doing and it was a part of me and I had no intention of being “cured”. Take it or leave it.
She took it. Six months later we married and, from the very start, she’d pick out what she wants me to wear that night. It used to be every night but she has me dress on weekends now.
She takes me to wig stores and chooses the wig.
We go to many thrift and consignment stores together.
All in all, it’s been a LOT of fun.
So, reading what you girls write, I can’t believe some of you “sneak” around and “hide”. I couldn’t live like that and I think it’s the same as lying to your SO. You wouldn’t like it if she lied to you so what’s the excuse for the “double standard”?
If she can’t deal with your dressing, she’s the wrong SO for you.
I don’t see how ANYONE can justify the sneaking and having a “stash”.
Please explain yourselves if you are one of the ’fraidy cats why you’re lying to your SO.
My wife and I would each like to know.
THIS IS AN ADDED EDIT:
Look, I’m sorry if I got anyone upset, I don’t mean to. It may be true that my wife is not of the ordinary, although she says “if you love someone, you love all of them”.
That said, Cding doesn’t hurt anyone and if anyone gets bent out of shape and freak out over it, maybe there’s more to the story than meets the eye.
But those who have commented, thank you for taking the time to help us understand.
Cheryl
ps, married for 15 years.