For me...I wear a very feminine anklet...I am also letting my nails grow - and I plan to apply some clear polish in the near future. I also have a very girlie temp tattoo to my lower back frequently. I keep my legs, underarms, back, chest and private area shaved at all times.
I've never gone so far as to wear panties or bra...because it's just too much of a risk for me and my occupation.
The anklet is fantastic though...when I'm stressed I simply slip my finger between the anklet and my skin and work it back and forth a few times and it just settles me down and gets me in touch with Caitlin in a second.