Hello dear friends,
As I continue with this transition process in order to live a much more authentic, peaceful and happier existence. I find myself in the middle of a situation where I need to make a final decision and I just needed some advice.
I have all my government documents changed about two months ago and they all show the proper gender marker. I am very happy and satisfied for that. I am done with all DMV, Court name changes, social security and all that "good stuff"!.
Lately I have been doing some research in regards to finding new employment and I have contacted this recruiter in NYC ( I live in Queens NY) and provided him all my information and proper resume. I do have a Senior Management Position in my current company and the job is really, really flexible schedule wise. I have been working for them for over 14 years. I do work from home 90% of the time and I only need to go to main office and sporadic meetings of about three hours a couple of times a week. The rest I can work whenever I want, provided there is an internet connection. (I love libraries, Starbucks and Panera bread places, they all have wifi). Unfortunately my current job will not be the right environment to transition and though I know others who have done it in the same industry (Construction Management), my company is simply the wrong company to transition. The question I have is that if I get a new job to start fresh and as a female, once I get the offer, the new employer will probably call my previous office and find out about my male persona, also, I am afraid once they run a background check (that is if they do it), they might find that I had a male name recently changed. Am I wrong? Can you please input your experience or advise as per how can I do this in the most confidential manner? Do you think I have to disclosure my trans status to the new potential employer?
Some of you will still insist to try to transition in my company, I don’t mean to be rude, but please that is out of the case, believe me, I tried, so don’t waste your time providing this kind of input. I want to know safe ways to transition to new companies without much history disclosure.
You advise and proper input is highly appreciated.