Hi and welcome!
I didn't have to tell my wife because I never had crossdressed or even thought about it until we had been married for 34 years. At that point we started joking with each other one day, I purchased some items, modeled them, and within 48 hours Tina was born and we've never looked back! Tina has always been a joint endeavor of the two of us, and that has made it incredibly special!