Hi guys and gals!
I just wanted to share this, since I feel like I'm painting myself into a corner right now...
I have a GF since about 2 years ago. Very lovable, open, and accepting. She's accepted my CD'ing without much of a fuss. I've also come out as a trans-person to almost everyone; work, facebook etc. thanks to her. Splendid so far.
Now however when I think of myself as being transsexual, I'm afraid to come clean and tell her how I feel. And when we talk about it all I manage is some half-assed "uh I feel like both man and woman... and it shifts from when I feel either way..." sort of thing. Like a mixed gender, and that has become my standard answer.
Now, I am seeing a team of doctors to figure out my gender identity, but I am pretty sure myself of the way ahead. I want to live as a woman. Not pink-foggy-want-to-live-as-a-woman. But really deep inside. It's gut wrenching and I feel it every single day.
The thing is, that since I've repeatedly said I am both man and woman, just telling her out of the blue that I want to live the rest of my life as a woman... It' won't exactly make her happy. She has been asking about this in such a way, that the displeasure of the thought of me wanting only to be a woman shows through. And her fear of me wanting exactly that. And she has also asked that when I want to be a man, wether that is because it's comfortable and the easy way out.
So, I have two thoughts.
1) How on earth should I tell her that I really think that I am transsexual?
2) And I'm afraid to tell her, because then I might be left alone, and that scares me like crap. How do I deal with that fear?
I'd appreciate any thoughts, ideas, advice... Thank you!
Love,
Michelle