How much does your SO know about your dressing?

[ErinSassyPants]

I'll take the heat for the Porn question. When Polka Dot mentioned he was going to ask the question I threw in "yeah but how many have shown their SO their porn?" He was in NO way assuming all CDers have a porn collection so that was an interesting reaction some people have.

BTW a porn "collection" can be anything from two old playboys in a forgotten drawer or an old Sears catalog where you got your first glimpse of fancy lady clothes all the way to a gigabit hard drive filled with every hard core movie ever made.

I will say the reason I thought it would be interesting is that when I moved in with Polka Dot before we got married he never hid access to any of that so while I haven't sat down and watched the random stuff he collected over the years I did go through to see what he had found interesting enough to save. Then when we've been talking and he'll say "Well I'm not into that" I have said "so explain the *insert flavor* porn" and it's been a great help in understanding him because he's not good at expressing what's going on inside of him.

I find the reactions of people to that questions to be the most interesting of this thread. I noticed lots of protests and then the people who were not afraid to say they had something they considered to fit just quietly answering the questions.

[Polka Dot]

Good answers, everyone! I was just trying to get a picture of where everyone is at on their life's journey. Question 6 was mostly to indicate what type of materials turn you on or give you "zing", and whether your SO knows what those things are.

I guess it's my turn now.

1. Do they know you dress?
YES. I told her on our second date.

2. Have they seen you dress?
YES. On our third date, I brought my camera and floodlights to her house and we did a photo set with her and I dressed up.

3. Do they know your femme persona?
I don't think that I have one, I just dress up to feel sexy and it relaxes me.

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
NO. I have never gone out of the house while dressed.

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
YES. It's always such a good bonding experience together.

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
YES. My wife (Then girlfriend) asked straight out to see mine 6 months into our relationship. I gather she got some good insights into what makes me tick from the material I had (mostly computer videos).

[reb.femme]

......BTW a porn "collection" can be anything from two old playboys in a forgotten drawer or an old Sears catalog where you got your first glimpse of fancy lady clothes all the way to a gigabit hard drive filled with every hard core movie ever made.

It is a case of perspectives as always, and yep, I remember the old mags from my days long past.
I think question 6 is valid, it just doesn't apply to me or the better half. Not unless she has her own secret stash that I'm not aware of.

Reb

[KarenCDFL]

Yes for 1 through 5

There is no # 6

[ErinSassyPants]

1. Do they know you dress?
YES. I told her on our second date.

2. Have they seen you dress?
YES. On our third date, I brought my camera and floodlights to her house and we did a photo set with her and I dressed up.

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
YES. My wife (Then girlfriend) asked straight out to see mine 6 months into our relationship. I gather she got some good insights into what makes me tick from the material I had (mostly computer videos).

Sweetie, I had no idea those first two were dates.

Also, I don't think I asked. As I remember it you gave me access to your movies and they were in a file in there with a not at all subtle name next to the mainstream Hollywood movies. In any case it really has given me insight into you that I wouldn't have had otherwise and I appreciate that. I did tell you that I'd seen them when I discovered them.

It is a case of perspectives as always, and yep, I remember the old mags from my days long past.
I think question 6 is valid, it just doesn't apply to me or the better half. Not unless she has her own secret stash that I'm not aware of.

Reb

She may well...many woman do only we call them "romance novels".

[shawnsheila]

1. Do they know you dress?
Yes

2. Have they seen you dress?
Yes, if a picture counts

3. Do they know your femme persona?
No

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
No, but I wish

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
No, But I wish

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
Yes, when I was younger but I don't have a porn collection anymore... Too busy

[Robin777]

1. Do they know you dress?

Yes
2. Have they seen you dress?
All The Time

3. Do they know your femme persona?

It is the same, both ways

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
No,Not Yet Maybe Someday

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
All The Time

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
No porn collection.

[Jodi]

Polka Dot, Why would you assume that all cd's have a porn collection? You probably have one, which is fine. I don't have a porn collection, and I don't need one. Always remember, that not all people live like you live.

Jodi

So, Gurls.. Tell me. How much does your SO know about your femme self and your dressing? I am interested in if it's a completely hidden thing, or she knows everything about your girly self. Mayhaps categories would help:

1. Do they know you dress?

2. Have they seen you dress?

3. Do they know your femme persona?

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

I look forward to hearing your answers to these questions!

[daviolin]

All the way to five. We don't do porn. Daviolin

[Kelley]

Yes 1-5
No 6 (don't have one)

Kelley

[Heather J]

1. Do they know you dress? Yes

2. Have they seen you dress? Yes

3. Do they know your femme persona? Yes

4. Have you gone out together when dressed? No

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes? Yes

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection? Yes

[PretzelGirl]

<Looks to my right> Honey, do you know that I wear what I am wearing?

Ok
1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes a lot
5. Yes a lot too
6. No, unless you count Glamour, InStyle, and Allure

[DebbieL]

So, Gurls.. Tell me. How much does your SO know about your femme self and your dressing? I am interested in if it's a completely hidden thing, or she knows everything about your girly self. Mayhaps categories would help:

1. Do they know you dress?

Yes, I made a point of it in my Match.com profile, if it was a problem, she wouldn't have e-mailed.

2. Have they seen you dress?

Yes, both pictures and in person, numerous times.

3. Do they know your femme persona?

Yes, she likes Debbie more than she likes Rex.

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

Yes, I'm usually the femme of the pair. She wears the pants.

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

Yes, she doesn't want be dressing too ****ty. She helps me blend - I always pass now

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

I've shared several Amazon books. She's shared some of hers. We have similar tastes.

We've had to limit sex for a while. She's had about a dozen hernias and 4 surgeries - from "Belly Whomper" orgasms. She doesn't know when she's had too much, until it's too late.

One of the advantages of not depending on what's between my legs to please a woman.

[heatherdress]

1. Do they know you dress? Yes - she encouraged me to start crossdressing

2. Have they seen you dress? Yes - she asks me to dress and has helped me with makeup, hair and clothing styles

3. Do they know your femme persona? Yes

4. Have you gone out together when dressed? Yes

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes? Yes - sometimes we buy the same shoes or outfits

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection? N/A - no collection

[ossian]

1) she knows I dress.
2) no she has not seen me dress. She is still very new to this and I don't want to scare her.
3) we are working through this at the moment, in therapy, blush...........
4) no I'm afraid of her reaction. I love her and don't want to force this on her. Everything in its own time.
5) no but she bought me three wonderful dresses last week. :-)
6) what porn collection?

[Lorileah]

I will have to answer in the past tense. I don't have a SO right now

1. Do they know you dress?
Yes, it was just about the first thing I told them
2. Have they seen you dress?
Yes and undress and dress again
3. Do they know your femme persona?
Yes she loved Lori as much or more than the male
4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
yes many many times
5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
yes
6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
no collection but we watched movies and looked at magazines and even went to adult stores

[Amanda M]

1 to 5 - yes
6 None.

[Jacqueline Winona]

1. Do they know you dress?
Yes, but she prefers not to know.
2. Have they seen you dress?
Yes, but fully dressed only for Halloween or similar occasions.
3. Do they know your femme persona?
No, she knows I have a femme side but again prefers not to know more.
4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
Only for Halloween, etc.
5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
Yes, but again not for much other than underwear.
6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
Don't have one. Years (decades is more accurate) ago she saw some that I had. Not her thing, not really my thing anymore either.

[janet54]

All to yes but not 6 . We don't go there.