How much does your SO know about your dressing?

[Megan70]

1 YES
2 YES
3 YES
4 YES
5 YES
6 not relevant-too personal ,edit and scrap the question 6
What's the big deal , doesn't every married CD-girl have an accepting wife or girlfriend that participates, helps dress her, suggest clothes, goes out, shops, dines and movies, and have had sex as girl friends years ago. ??. I have for 40+ years
Hope others experience such Navarra

[Princess Grandpa]

Julie and I are coming to know this side of myself together. You can put down yes to all of the above.

Hug
Rita

[Tiffanyselkoe]

Yes to all except 6. Don't have any porn

[suchacutie]

Tina is a product of our marriage. We do everything together Andrew without my wife there really could not be the mature feminine self and persona that is Tina. Category 6 is irrelevant.

[FrillyShelly]

So, Gurls.. Tell me. How much does your SO know about your femme self and your dressing? I am interested in if it's a completely hidden thing, or she knows everything about your girly self. Mayhaps categories would help:

1. Do they know you dress?

2. Have they seen you dress?

3. Do they know your femme persona?

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

I look forward to hearing your answers to these questions!

NO
NO
NO
NO
NO
YES.......... yikes!! it's not a porn collection, but a collection of frilly, girly dresses

[Jenniferathome]

1 through 5 YES. I have been out to my wife for more than 2 years now.

As for 6, why would you assume someone even HAS a porn "collection"? Quite odd. Neither do I have a "collection" nor even "a" porn item.

[Sabrina133]

yes to 1-5. 6 - yes but only for the articles.

[alwayshave]

1-5. Yes. 6. I don't have one, my mind is a fertile enough playground that I don't need the help of others.

[Melissa_Rose]

1. Do they know you dress? Yes

2. Have they seen you dress? Yes

3. Do they know your femme persona? Havent figured one out yet so no..

4. Have you gone out together when dressed? Not yet.. soon..

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes? Yes.. best shopping experiences ever

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?.. dont own any. Dont watch any.. my first reaction to this was " oh great another aspect of my life that doesnt fit the norms!.. ha. Happy to read all the replies..

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[~Joanne~]

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. Yes
6. Yes

[Stephanie47]

Having read the responses so far, I guess I am in the minority. However, I really suspect I am in the majority of the cross dressing male population.

Yes, my wife knows I like to dress in female clothing. On occasion she has found a bra or panty that did not get put away. She'll put it out of sight and tell me where it is, and, that's all.

We made an attempt probably twenty years ago to go shopping for panties for me. It was a total disaster for her. It was like a dear caught in the headlights. It was absolute torture for her. I stopped any futile attempts to gain her acceptance.

Now she supports gay and lesbian marriage. Maybe there is still hope for me. But, I would not bet a pair of panties on it.

Porn? What's that got to do with it? Anyway, I collect baseball movies.

[Kali]

1. Do they know you dress?

Of course. It would be very hard to miss.

2. Have they seen you dress?

Daily

3. Do they know your femme persona?

Named it and helped me bring it out and integrate all aspects of my self into who I am

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

Regularly

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

All the time. she also just brings me home things she finds that she thinks I would look good in.

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

Was someone handing out porn collections and I missed it? Add me to the "don't have one" list

I know exactly how lucky I am to have an understanding and supportive wife and simply add that as yet another reason why I love her.

[hallie]

So, Gurls.. Tell me. How much does your SO know about your femme self and your dressing? I am interested in if it's a completely hidden thing, or she knows everything about your girly self. Mayhaps categories would help:

1. Do they know you dress?

2. Have they seen you dress?

3. Do they know your femme persona?

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

I look forward to hearing your answers to these questions!

1. Yes
2. No
3. yes
4. not ye
5. Yes last night!! (online though...)
6. NO - I dont have one..but I've showed them other girls like us.

I just came out to her 3 weeks ago about all this...she's still really confused. If anyone has a guide or something that helps others understand (in a simple way) whats happening that would be great I've found a lot online and stuff but a lot of it is overly detailed for someone who is just trying to understand the concept of all this stuff.

[Jenni Yumiko]

1. Do they know you dress?
Yes
2. Have they seen you dress?
Yes
3. Do they know your femme persona?
Yes
4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
No urge so n/a
5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
Yes
6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
Don't have one, except for the few pictures we took at band camp

[Debra Russell]

Yes to all but no porn - and we don't go out together -- but maybe soon..............................Debra

[Laura28]

1. Do they know you dress?
Yes
2. Have they seen you dress?
Yes, in pictures and in person only undergarments no make up
3. Do they know your femme persona?
not sure if i really have one??
4. Have you gone out together when dressed?
No we have talked about we do go out with underdressed and toes painted
5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?
Yes, many times but only with me in male mode
6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?
we have watched porn together in the past but not recently

[mikiSJ]

1. Do they know you dress?

Yes, I told my wife of 38 years before we married.

2. Have they seen you dress?

Yes, but not since Miki came out of the closet.

3. Do they know your femme persona?

Yes, and it has caused some problems in our marriage.

4. Have you gone out together when dressed?

No, she wants Miki to be private, and I honor that.

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes?

Yes.

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

No, what makes you assume all CDer watch porn.

[ReineD]

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection?

I'm a SO and I can answer yes to questions 1 - 5. My SO and I go out frequently when she is dressed, and not just shopping. We go to restaurants, shows, art galleries, etc.

As to question 6, I am not aware that my SO has any porn collection. Or even that there remains any sexual activity caused by the CDing. I think that she is past that. But if she isn't, she might prefer to keep it private.

[BillieJoEllen]

Perhaps a better question to ask in place of #6 is - Have they ever seen your writings, videos or DVDs, clipped articles from newspapers and magazines?

If so, yes.

1. Yes

2. Yes, but years and years ago

3. No

4. No

5. Yes but only for her

[Farrah]

NO x6.......

[NV Susan]

1. Do they know you dress? Yes, but it's an "don't ask don't tell" kind of thing now.

2. Have they seen you dress? Yes, but not for many years.

3. Do they know your femme persona? No, don't think so.

4. Have you gone out together when dressed? No, only I do wear panties, girl jeans, shoes, socks all the time.

5. Have you shopped together for Gurl clothes? Yes & No, only when she is shopping for herself.

6. Have they seen / watched your porn collection? No, don't have one.

[Beverley Sims]

One to five "yes"
Six, What comprises a porn collection?

[ReineD]

Perhaps a better question to ask in place of #6 is - Have they ever seen your writings, videos or DVDs, clipped articles from newspapers and magazines?

Maybe the porn (or pics that make the heart race) apply more to the pre-middle age set, for whom the CDing is bound to be more sexual, give or take a few years.

[CDPheobe]

I have to say that its all yes to all answers.

My wife is my everything and I can't see myself leaving any details out. To me if you need to hide something, the possibilities of something going south, increase. I'm too honest. I don't even bent truth to my kids. I just don't want anything coming back to bite me in the you know what. Lol

[reb.femme]

My wife knows as much as she wishes to know. That desire can ebb and flow with the tide though. Still, she married a 'normal' guy....ish!, so that's not a criticism, just an observation.

1. Only since she caught me dressed in her nightie last year. Apparently, I went quite red. Strange that.

2. Most definitely.

3. Not really too much of a change in personality when dressed.

4. Only around the block, but she has promised to go elsewhere.....we'll see on that one though!

5. Big yes....lots of times. She is my personal shopper. Buys girlie Xmas presents for me too.

6. Not into porn. I like to be involved in the play, not watching.

I love my wife big style

Reb