Hi Greenie. I haven't read any of the previous 49 responses; I'm sure they're great and I hope they're helpful. If your SO comes back to the forum, there'll always be a predominance of supportive respondents along with a few who really aren't. It's the nature of an online forum, unfortunately. It's kind of humorous that although we're such a thin and oft misunderstood slice of the general population, us crossdressers often establish some sort of pecking order amongst ourselves. We compare those who dress only privately to those who dress publicly, those who present all-femme versus those who do the male/female mixture, and those who keep it a secret to those who share with their loved one(s). I've been told I bring "2.much.drama" in my posts and that events I recount for the benefit of the forum didn't really happen like I said they did. I'll swear off this forum at times like that and then come back a few months later. My wife laughs at me when I say, "I'm so mad and I'm never going back!" because she knows it's probably just a matter of days till I'm posting again.
Anyhow, please tell your SO to come back. I think we need more participants who don't do the full-femme thing and just want to do what they want. Although I try to "pass" as a female, there are days I want to throw on a dress and just go without the makeup and hair. I hope my rambling is of some help to you both.