....is YOU!
How did you out yourself to yourself? How did you accept it?
This question is based on the reasoning that before you can tell someone else, you have to have some minimum level of self-acceptance. For me, I outed myself to my wife at exactly the same time I outed myself to myself. So the growth I've been enjoying since then, and she has been enjoying, and what we've done as a couple, it's all been new to both of us. I didn't get to show her pictures, or dig out my stash and show it to her, or anything like that. It was all new to both of us (other than the part where I'd known all this time, just didn't accept it about myself).