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    Wondering about his intentions...

    So I decided to get dressed up and go to the new casino and feed some change into the one-armed-bandits tonight. It was fun! As I was sitting at one of the machines I noticed a young man, probably in his early 30's (I'm in my 40's) who kept walking by. Then he stopped at the machine next to the one I was playing and began to feed it coins. Well, he started a conversation about losing money and blah, blah, blah. It seemed innocent enough. However, because I was dolled up I try to keep up my guard. Anyway, he eventually asked my name, I gave it and he said it was nice to meet me. I few minutes later, he asked for my number! Well, I declined to give it to him but gave him my email address instead. Then he asked what I was doing later. I just told him I was going home. He left it at that, shook my hand and said he would email me in the next few days.

    I guess what I'm trying get past is his intentions. My first thought is he wanted sex, and did he think I was a hooker or something? I wasn't dressed like a hooker, I don't think. Just a purple skirt matching blouse and 1" heels. I wasn't throwing myself at anybody, just minding my own business and trying to win my money back (which I did, along with about 40 more). I guess I'll just see when/if he emails. And, should I mention the encounter to Paul the gentleman that I had a date with and am going out with tomorrow?
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    I would forget it happened. 10-1 odds you won't hear from him again
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    Why mention it to "Paul"? Nothing happened and besides... What would be the point?
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    Don't mention it to Paul I don't see why you should.
    IF you get an email I'm sure you will find out pretty quick what his intentions are.
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    i wouldn't mention it to paul either...you only had one date with him!
    now the guy in the casino certainly seemed very friendly and nice enough to not push the issue with you.
    not to mention that he departed in a gracious manner. now if he e-mails you he is truly interested, then
    it's up to you what happens next.
    your a very lucky girl!!

    send me the number of the one you kick to the curb!
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    Quote Originally Posted by paulaprimo View Post

    send me the number of the one you kick to the curb!
    You got it girl! Tee-hee!!! Okay, ya'll have made up my mind... Not going to say anything to Paul. Ya'll are right, one date; no need to cause any distractions.
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    Nothing happened ... do not mention it to Paul.

    If Paul is serious and you are also, and you want to do something with the guy.

    Then be honest ... but nothing happened.

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    I don't think mentioning this to Paul would be in your best interest. If you did, it might cause you some explaining. "DON'T OPEN A CAN OF WORMS"

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    Thanks ladies... I guess the big question for me is the fellow's intentions? I mean, I seriously wondered if the guy thought I was a hooker or something. I don't THINK I presented myself as a hooker. The skirt in my avatar is what I was wearing with a different blouse and skinny orange/reddish belt. My hair was pulled back with a clip on pony-tail. I thought I looked fairly conservative. Even if he thought at first I was GG, my voice would've given me away in a second. That's why I was wondering about his intentions. It's been bugging me. Are men really interested in me as female Jenny, or are they 'tranny-chasers' and just want one thing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny CD View Post
    Thanks ladies... I guess the big question for me is the fellow's intentions? ?
    I think you know what his intentions are. You need to decide what your intentions are.
    All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?

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    Assuming he read you, I'd be careful. Some people think we are all hookers (or sex maniacs), regardless of how we dress, thanks to the way we are often presented to John Q. Public (thanks Springer...) I'd be awful leery of his intentions too.

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    1 - Don't mention it to your guy friend, it's a non-issue.

    2 - I'm pretty sure that if he thought you were a hooker, he would have made a proposition rather than ask for your name & contact info.

    3 - Whether he 'read' you or not, I think it's wonderful that he treated you as you presented: as a woman. I'd take it as a compliment and let it go at that.
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    It could be that he is a closeted CD. He could just be wanting a friend to talk to.

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    I agree with the majority - no need to tell Paul since you've only just met and I assume it hasnt gone beyond being friends. He doesnt need to know.

    Obviously, the ecounter at the Casino could lead to something or not - the ball is in his court. If he emails you, then you know and may have to make a decision. No need to worry right now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vickie_CDTV View Post
    Assuming he read you, I'd be careful. Some people think we are all hookers (or sex maniacs), regardless of how we dress, thanks to the way we are often presented to John Q. Public (thanks Springer...) I'd be awful leery of his intentions too.
    The hooker part is a non-issue. He saw you as you were. Learning who that person was is why people date.

    Agree with the majority on not informing Paul and waiting and seeing for an email. Nice job on the phone number. No need to give that out to someone you don't know.

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    If he hasn't contacted you by now, he probably won't. Some folks don't know what they want. There was a cute CD admirer who used to hang around me at the club but didn't want to make any commitments. I guess he just liked the scenery. Oh well, you know the old expression: "Faint heart never won fair maiden."
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    Maybe I'm being a bit naive but perhaps the guy who sat next to you thought you were just a pretty lady and he was just trying to pick you up? You never know.
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    I would not mention this to Paul. Nothing really happened. As for the intent...who knows. You were wise to keep your guard up.

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    Yes, the fellow gambler wanted sex. No, I wouldn't mention it to Paul. Worry about to do only after he emails, but don't bet on it. Odds are he may not.

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    When he asked what you were doing later, that meant "would you like to have sex later?" I don't think he thought you were a sex worker; I think he was hoping you were sexually attracted to him. Were you? Would you be interested in seeing him again, if you knew he wanted the evening to end with sex?

    If it were me, and I wasn't sexually interested in the guy, I wouldn't give him any of my information. That just gives them the impression that you're interested.

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    I think I would keep it quiet and focus my mind on Paul. Have a great date
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    Well, why do some people think it's all about sex with us? I don't get it.

    Thanks Joanna... and can have those cute boots!
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    [QUOTE=Jenny CD;3254634]Well, why do some people think it's all about sex with us? I don't get it.

    I don't either to be honest.
    If you do get an email be honest and make sure he knows you are a guy.
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    This is a no brainer! People hit on people because they are interested in what they see. You gave him a method of contacting you. He's either going to send you an email or he'll change his mind. As to why do some people think it's all about sex with us, don't gay men hit on men; lesbians hit on other women; straight men hit on straight women? Why wouldn't a man hit on a cross dresser, if that's his inclination.

    Heck, I'm not in the market for a hook up (taken for the last forty plus years), but isn't that what's it all about?

    Curious, what would your reaction be if a woman asked to contact you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny CD View Post
    Well, why do some people think it's all about sex with us? I don't get it.
    He approached you because HE was interested in sex. Some people just figure that they'll get shot down 99 times out of a 100, but that just means they have to keep asking people. Eventually someone will say yes. It doesn't mean he thought you wanted sex; it just means that he wanted sex, and thought he'd see if you were agreeable.

    I'm a GG, but if I'm alone at a bar or coffeehouse, men will sometimes approach me. It doesn't mean they think I'm particularly interested in sex; it just means that they ask anyone they find attractive who's not obviously partnered off.
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