I am not sure if this the proper place for this post, I am extremely cautious of revealing my love of dressing up, but have a longing to find someone locally too share with all the wonderful things I enjoy about dressing up. My question is has anyone met up with others who share our love of being femme in the real world and how did it happen.
Love Amanda
"To some shoes just cover the feet....but for me they show your style."
I have meet a number of local girls.... enfemme and in drab... Done some dressing up together with a couple.... have a good cd friend whom we have lunch together... our kids went to school together.... even know a other cd coworker... we met through a mutual friend who figured out we worked for the same company... the friend is an exCD / admirer whom I've had lunch with a few time... most I've met through IM or FaceBook....
Here in Dallas we have a Meetup every Monday night for karaoke and drinks and chatting. There are other times we meet and different people show up, but Monday night is always on.
-Candi
Loving girlfriend of BrandyGG
I will meet anyone willing pretty much. It can be dressed of in drab, it is about making friends. It is very common. Then you also have the events that draw many CDers so you can't spend enough time to meet everyone. I would advise care in those that want to meet that you don't know. It is easy enough. Just meet for coffee, ice cream, or dinner. A great way to spend some time together and you are in a place with enough people around it isn't an issue.
The first time I met another crossdresser was at one of those change away or makeover experiences where you pay a fee and they make you over, but the very best thing I have found for meeting others who share our love of being femme and really making new friends, is to join a local TG support group. When I went to my local group's monthly social everyone was so welcoming and everything seemed so "normal" and I really felt accepted ... so my recommendation is for you to look and see if there are any TG support groups within driving distance of your home. Google is your friend if you're unable to get any recommendations from folks here.
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The River City Gems - Northern California's largest and most active crossdressing & transgender support group!
A couple from this site and a few from y*hoo groups. In fact, just got back from a GNO weekend with a bunch of girls and had a blast. Met at a local LBGT bar in the middle of Iowa and then went shopping, casino and basically just had a blast. We usually met up 'bout once a month and then twice a year I get out to a resort gathering....
Hope this helps...
Renne......
I've met 9 of my 26 friends in this board FtF, plus literally dozens of others. I've been to local events where there were 25 to 30 girls all together, and I went to the Keystone Conference in 2012 and 2013, where there were arounf 400 girls. I've also met groups when I was traveling, in particulat Denver and Houston.
I believe that there's a group in Tampa, which is only 1.5 hours from you.
Search for Tampa
Here's some threads that may interest you.
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ighlight=tampa
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ighlight=tampa
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Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
Amanda,
My best advice is to find CD/TG meetup groups in the Ft Myers/ Sarasota areas, if they exist. Maybe there's a Tri Ess chapter in your area. You can google them to find out.
The best thing about joining a group is the opportunity to do "normal" stuff like shopping , dining at restaurants, shows, movies, etc. Somehow we all need to earn our wings, and joining a group that does GNO's (Girls Night Out) is always a start.
Use caution, and be sure you know what you might be getting into.....Originally Posted by Sue
A few weeks ago I received a PM from a member in my area, asking if I was interested in meeting with them. (That member IS NOT anyone that is involved in this post)
I read a few of their posts and thought it would be interesting so I agreed.
I then went on to say I was in a long term relationship and not interested in any fooling around.
I never got another response??
After a while, I did another search of their posts and saw that they have been a member for years. But only posted a few times, and did a ton of PM's.
I can only assume they are trolling for sex partners.
But to each their own.....
>> Be Careful <<
Make sure you exchange thoughts about what you are interested in and what you will not get involved with.
The world is full of all sorts of people.
I have met many cd sisters from this site, and all of them are such lovely, beautiful and such charming individuals. Most, I have met at SCC. But I finally met a sister from this site that only lives about 30 minutes away. We have had such wonderful times together and we talk on the phone a lot as well and we share so much insight with who we are. We are good friends today. I only wish that I could have met friends through out my life that were a lot like me or at least that we had this common denominator and that is being a lifelong cross dresser or maybe even more than that. I'd like for you to read my thread about meeting this sweet awesome sister from this site and some of what she and I have shared thus far. I finally at long last with talking to her to attend SCC for her very first time. She is nervous, but I assured her that I will be by by her side through it all. She is also scheduled to our house this Saturday to hang out with my wife and I. There are so many good people on this site. Here http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...e-.&highlight= is just one story of me meeting another member from here.
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You can do some Internet searches (Transgender support groups near (any large metropolitan area), LGBT Centers, etc). Steffi wrote about a group near Tampa, probably this groiup http://www.meetup.com/Central-Florid...Social-Meetup/. I believe there may another support group near Ft. Myers. You can start a thread asking if there is anyone near you that would be willing to meet with you – possible thread title “I’d like to meet other girls near Punta Gorda”.
I joined a transgender support group in San Diego and had many enjoyable dinner meetings. The meetings were held in a private meeting room in a restaurant. When I joined I wasn’t out and about and I was worried about walking into a large restaurant. I was told that it was customary for prospective members to attend the meetings in drab until they felt comfortable coming enfemme – at least one member of that group always attends in drab.
Babs
If you are starting to get out... Yes, go to meetings and simply introduce yourself. It will be scary at first, but you will get used to it. I was terrified when I went to my meeting, or the first 50 times I went out. But, the more you do it... The easier it gets. I have several friends that are not CD/TS/TG, but gay. And they totally accept me and my lifestyle.
Try this... But be careful. This is what I did; I got all dolled up. Thought I looked pretty good but prolly didn't. Went to a gay bar and ordered a Diet Coke. I met one of my best friend's there. He is gay and totally not into CD/TS/TG... we are just friends. But, I am sooooo glad I got brave enough to go out that night!!!
Because of who we are and how we dress, we tend to become afraid of our own shadows. I refuse that now. If I knew I wouldn't get fired from my job (which I'm pretty good at), I would dress 24/7. Right now I dress in drab at work only.
Change is inevitable...
There are several different routes. I have met people via this forum, by going to TG events like the one at Hamburger Mary's, by joining a traditional CDing group, and even meeting other clients of my electrologist.
Get to know a few people and pretty soon more opportunities will come your way. Be patient and properly cautious, but at the same time be ready to take opportunities to do new things.
Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
One of the first things is to build up confidence amongst other readers here then follow all the other advice given in previous posts.
Have patience it takes time.
I believe Rome was not built in a day either.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Amanda, in Florida there are many groups you can join. I am a member of a group in Orlando, and one in St Pete and a meetup group that goes all over. I know there is one in Ft. Myers too. If you need some help finding them just IM me and I will try to get you some contact info. I know somewhere in the range of 150 ladies who are always out and about.
Most of these groups offer a changing room and if you are needing it someone will even come and escort you from the changing room to the meeting.
Ellen
All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?
I initially joined the Renaissance TG Org and we had monthly meetings. I later moved on to going over to my local LGBT resort every weekend. They now have special TG/CD theme weekends 3 or 4 times a year. Good way to meet folks. I've met quite a few good friends with both of these arrangements.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I have met a fellow sister from this site a few times. It was one of the best things I have ever done. We spent a lot of time getting to know each other before we met. We are now best of friends.
Now I'm excited about finding someone to share with...
"To some shoes just cover the feet....but for me they show your style."
I will also concur that finding a group is a great method. It allows you to pre-screen in a safe environment. Do not be afraid to ask questions before attending the first time. The more you known going in, the more comfortable and confident you will be. I have met, and continue to meet, some great people through the local group and some have become true friends that goes beyond our original commonality. There are 6-7 members of this forum I have met through the group.
A lot of good advice given here. If you live in a more metropolitan area I am sure there are groups and better opportunties to meet others. I have never been out dressed and have only let two, other than my wife, see me dresssed. One of them was just curious and it was only one time. The other I met in a yahoo group who live about fifty miles from me. We me a couple of times in drab and just chatted and got to know each other. Then we started meeting at her house where we would dress up and try on different outfits. We would go online and "window shop" and look at clothing catalogs. His wife knew and I met her and she was really nice and was cool with it all. This went on for just over a year then she was transfered out of state. My wife and I went to visit them a few times and we were all pretty good friends. Then her wife had cancer and passed away, and she got transfered on to another location closer to family.
I have looked for someone else to share with but its sad fact that everyone I have met who close to me is more interested sex than just being friends. Plus I am always really really cautious because of the area I live in.
"It takes all kinds of kinds" Miranda Lambert
Now some point a finger and let ignorance linger
If they'd look in the mirror they'd find.
That ever since the beginning to keep the world spinning
It takes all kinds of kinds.
Amanda, just hit forum, and scroll down to Upcoming Events. There seems to be something listed for Florida most of the time. If you notice a girl's location is near you, send a pm, and ask. It's those little steps that will get you going.
Hugs, Leah
Be nice; It don't cost nothing.
Once you gain a self acceptance of who you are and reach a comfortable level of being somewhat passable, it gets somewhat frustrating sitting around the house all dressed up with nowhere to go. It is only natural that with all the work we put into who we are and how we express ourselves we tend to feel compelled to get out with the girls. One of the greatest things about meeting others like us is that through conversation and personal interaction, you can really take steps forward in understanding ourselves better. As we all know that is something that is always bringing up a lot of ?????????? at any given time in our daily lives.
Amanda,
My advice, be very cautious about contacts made through the 'meat market' sites on the internet. While they can be legitimate, most times they are simply folks trolling for sex or worse.
Several of the girls here have suggested searching out CD friendly groups in the area. My preference is for this as 1) safety in numbers and 2) lots of legitimate like minded girls. Going solo makes me nervous, never know what kind of situation you may end up in.
There must be LGBT or CD groups in your area. Just a matter of finding them and getting out.
Good luck sister. Hugs, Robin
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