Hello all. This is my 1st post and my 1st time here. Wanted to come on here and tell some others like me about my experience and listen to any feedback -- from people that have been through it or anyone that has any good guidance.
I am 41, married, 2 children and have been crossdressing since I can remember. Been married for 13 years. I know I probably should have, but I did not tell my wife prior to our marriage. I kept it in the closet and she never found out until last Thursday night. Thats a whole other story that I'd be happy to tell, but for now, I just wanted to relay that she now knows and we are finding out if and how our marriage can survive this. I sure hope so, but I dont pretend to understand how she must feel.
Theres been a good amount of crying and communication so far. We talk every day about this and have a wide open line of communication on this -- which I think has been very helpful to both sides. I told her I want her to be able to ask me any questions and to talk to me about it whenever she wants to. I havent wanted to be something we just set aside in our heads and be a constant divider. Now, we are not even 1 week in, but we've been pretty good about talking to each other about it.
To be honest, as I sit here and write this, I have no idea whether the marriage will survive. Like I said, I sure hope so. I love her with all my heart and do NOT want to live without her and my children. I know it will take time though.
Tonight, we are seeing a therapist we have seen in the past (on other non-serious issues). We contacted her again and told her we'd like to come back in and discuss an issue (wait til she hears this one).
It feels really good to FINALLY tell someone else about this --- to tell her. I dont deny that. But in the few days since, I must say I am not sure it was the right thing. Time will tell I guess.
I'd be curious to hear from others on this. Would love to hear some do's and dont's --- some advice that would help
Most sincerely,
kelly