Assault is assault and the police would care about it, you should always report it.Originally Posted by victoria
Assault is assault and the police would care about it, you should always report it.
Victoria, you may want to consider something else. This happened to me. Like you, I was out jogging after dark. I stepped in a hole and fell. The pain was so bad I could not walk. I would have been easy prey for someone with bad intentions. After about a half an hour I made it home, but that taught me a lesson.....never jog in the dark. Had someone tried to hurt me, no matter how I was dressed I would call 911.
I was, but it was minor, so I didn't report it. Maybe I should have? It was in a "safe place", with police nearby, so you just never know.
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I agree with the "report it" opinions above unless reporting it would result in consequences to you from the local constabulary. If that were the case, I would seriously consider moving elsewhere.
I am fortunate I hang out dressed in nice areas that I don't feel this would happen, but if I was assaulted I would report it dressed or not, in all the years I've been doing this I found handling myself as a lady is best... I havent had an problems close to any one doing harm to me, a rude remark from a stranger usually gets a very coy lady like response that usually makes the person regret they said anything at all, a guy walking with his gf made a comment about a gay in a dress and I turned and said very politely "I'm sorry but your sweater is waaaaaaay more gay than my dress", then the gf smacked him on the harm and said I told you that hahaha
i never told anybody about this because i was very embarrassed, but my second time out i was in a bar and being bothered by a partron.
i went outside to have a smoke and to get away from him. being a newbie i didn't want a confrontation or to draw attention to myself.
he came outside and started walking right towards me. stupid me thinking he wanted a light or wanted to apologize, was shocked when
he punched me right in the head. instinct took over, i hit him once, his face exploded and he fell to the ground. i was scared to death and just wanted
to get out of there. the last thing i wanted was for the cops to come and create a scene, but there were 2 other people out there and they must have called them. the station was just down the block so they arrived in what seemed liked seconds. the police wanted my ID and i was having visions of my picture in the morning paper. thinking i killed this guy as he hasn't moved a muscle and me covered in his blood, i can not express how humiliated i felt. the guy finally came to as he was put in the ambulance,
screaming the whole time he wanted to press charges. now i'm having visions of a court trial...omg i was embarrassed and so scared.
but the cops were great to me and very professional!! they wanted to make sure that i was okay, and wanted to know if i wanted to press charges. i didn't because i was feeling bad for the guy. the police must of gotten the facts from the 2 witnesses. as the one officer said, as far as he was concerned
justice was served! i was able to get out of there and go home. the next day i checked the paper and police blog and didn't see a thing.
nothing ever became of it and i have since been back to that bar many times.
i wish this never happened and if i knew what his intentions were, i would of left for sure. but if something like this ever happened again i now feel comfortable and confident
enough to call the cops.
paula
Depends on the extentmofmthe assault.
The rules I follow:
1. Stay away from dangerous places and people.
2. Stay away from the police.
Follow these and you are much more likely to have a pleasant day.
Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
Wow. I am actually shocked at the number of responses stating they wouldn't report an incident. Really, I'm actually kind of disgusted by that attitude.
Just last week a young transwoman was beaten to death in NYC.
Let me stress that: BEATEN. TO. DEATH.
I wonder, if it were possible to ask her, which she would have preferred: the potential embarrassment of being 'outed', or her current condition.
Kind of makes me wonder what some of you would do if you WITNESSED a crime while en femme; not report it because you'd be embarrassed?
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I would report any assault on me. Don't know why anyone wouldn't!
Be whoever you want to be. Screw what others think. It's their loss....
Yes, I would report it..But I have found that your best defense is a good offense.
1. Common Sense -- It something looks sketchy, don't be there. Well-lit areas, public areas, be there.
2. Gal Pals -- The best safety measure there is. Numbers are a deterrent that is 100% percent effective. The more numbers you have, the higher likelihood that an attack on the group will cause a seen and draw attention. A likely attacker HATES ATTENTION.
3. Tactical the area -- Be alert to the surroundings
4. Know your purse, use your purse -- What you have on you is a set of weapons if used right. Car keys, the blunt end of a makeup brush or a bottle of nail polish can be a means for you to escape.
I also carry chemical defense sprays such as tear gas. I've had to use it once, and it was very effective.
5. Confidence -- Move with a purpose. Know where you are going. If you look like you can take care of yourself and/or you can cause a major problem with an attacker, that likely attacker is going to weigh the option to go after somebody else.
I've found that having a confident bearing is a big factor in a club-type situation in deal with unwanted attention, and sometime that includes having the confidence sometimes to not play nice, if you will...be bitchy to someone who's attention who just isn't getting the hint to leave you alone.
Let's ask more relevant questions:
For those who reported an assault, did your report result in any action? Was the assailant arrested? Convicted? Did your report result in any negative consequences for you?
I was hit by a hit-and-run driver while standing still at a traffic signal. I reported it and nothing was ever done despite the fact that I gave the offender's license plate number to the officers. It was apparently too much trouble for them to track down the offender for an offense that would net them only a small fine.
What the officers did do was question me about my actions, asking "Were you on your cell phone when you were hit?", an attempt to trap me into admitting an offense while I was still shaken up by the experience. This taught me a valuable lesson, that the police are not a victim's friends.
Eryn
"These girls have the most beautiful dresses. And so do I! How about that!" [Kaylee, in Firefly] [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
"What do you care what other people think?" [Arlene Feynman, to her husband Richard]
"She's taller than all the women in my family, combined!" [Howard, in The Big Bang Theory]
"Tall, tall girl. The woman could hunt geese with a rake!" [Mary Cooper, in The Big Bang Theory]
Yes. The simple and ONLY answer.
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wow! really?? if that was directed at me...i can't speak for everyone, but maybe i can in this case...it's a no brainer!!
i hope you are never assaulted, but if you were, i can assure you that you would much rather have me around than any cop!!
Paulaprimo, I WAS a cop, for 12 years in NYC.
The number of criminal assaults that go unreported ( for whatever reason the victim has) is, by its very nature, unknowable. My opinion, damn me for it if you will, is that by reporting a crime, you increase the likelihood of *that* particular criminal being caught and punished. And, by reporting it, you *may* be helping to build a stronger case against a particular creep. Judges tend to levy stiffer sentences if they know a defendant has a long list of crimes.
The system is by far from perfect, but it's the only one we have. Citizens can help to make it work, or help to clog it up.
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only 12 years...lol i was on the job myself, but good ole abe did me and my precinct in!!
anyways, in your context now, i couldn't agree with you more!!
but the truth of the matter is that the reports wind up in the circular file unless a rape was
involved or was an assault against a child or senor citizen!
i can only speak for nyc, but how many days of work are missed only to see a guy walk. ny'ers are quick learners
and find that it isn't worth there time to report a crime. tell me that you never threw your arms up in utter frustration or pulled your hair out!
that damn revolving door in the city court system has to be replaced with an entrance only!!
some guy tried to grab me.
he did not get that I was not a woman I pushed his hands down very violently.
I reported it in male mode. did not discuss that I was dressed as a girl.
I know it was sexual assault but I do not want to go to court to explain in detail what was going on and how long I have dressed like that.
Last edited by vanitysumers; 09-07-2013 at 09:05 PM.
I would prolly go out for revenge. I was picked on in middle school and highschool so I don't take anything from anybody these days.
LOL of course I got frustrated, thats why I threw in the badge. That and the fact we had a brand new baby girl, and the wife worried about me. So I took a job with her brother-in-law, in a nice safe office- in the world trade center. go figure, right?
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OMG...please forgive me, and i don't mean to laugh, but how funny is that!!
just goes to prove, you're not safe any place!
my entire family worked in manhattan that day. me nephew also worked in the towers. his boss told him to come in at 11 as he was studying for his bar exam, how lucky was he as we know what happened at 10!
i pray that you weren't there...
you have my utmost respect and i salute you
Last edited by DAVIDA; 09-08-2013 at 05:06 AM. Reason: There is no need to quote the post right before yours
In Texas, your third misdemeanor (class A or B mixture, but doesn't include traffic tickets or other class C's) gets escalated to a felony automatically. The first few offense you can get off relatively easy, because they want you to learn a lesson and stop offending. Then they throw the BOOK at you.
I would almost have to. My training would take over, and the person would need medical attention of some kind. I carry a shoulder most everywhere, and also carry more than lipstick. This little flower has some sharp thorns.
Bobbi
I would report it. All of those types people who commit violent crimes should be punished. I know that it really wouldn't change things, but I hope if we all do the right thing, eventually society will be better for everyone.
Stephanie
I would report also, but they say that one half of all violent crimes go unreported to police.
I've been stopped twice, once in a drunk driving road block and once for running a stop sign that I totally missed.
The state trooper could not really have been more polite other than asking "Is this your license" and they may ask that of everyone. Basically they want to get you to talk so they can see if you have been drinking. I had not.
When I ran the stop sign it was a local officer and he clearly did not approve of crossdressers, but he did not hassle me and in fact didn't give me a ticket. The chances of getting thrown in jail for a traffic violation are really small.
As far as jogging goes, I've jogged at night en femme in a few places I've lived and never had a problem other than jerks whistling or something. I carry a small pepper spray just in case. The only interactions I've really had have been with other joggers and they are usually faster or slower or I just turn in a new direction. Plain looking women do not get much attention: wear huge breast forms and a long blonde wig and I'm sure that would be different, and not a good idea.
Last edited by Lexi_83; 09-08-2013 at 11:12 AM.
I do martial arts at a college and I can do some NASTY STUFF ON REFLEX.
I tend to not be as aggressive as I use to be because of that. I am more suttle with my aggression when needed.
there is an issue trying to fight a guy in 4.5 or 5 inch heels while having large dangling earings. I would not want to get my ear ripped like I see so many people.
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