Recently been out of the closet to a support group. It was a great experience, nothing negative to report. But there is a growing pressure to return to the closet. Why? Well there has been some talk on the forum recently about liabilities, is it worth it, price vs payoff.
I work in an area where if it got out, I'd be toast. The pressure comes when I ask the question of is it right or wrong to be out in public. I keep telling myself you aught to be allowed to be you, you aren't bothering anyone. But I keep coing back to the well, it's socially unacceptable, you need to know your limitations with this.
I have to put family first, it's not like I am busting out of the closet in a big way, just an outing every few months with a support group. I have a small child and nothing is more important to me than her. My wife is accepting. The problem is me. I keep trying to weight it all out but am getting nowhere fast.
Can anyone relate to this conumdrum?
The times out were some of the most liberating in life. Yet, the public/professional facade I put up every day even while longing to be presenting as female is causing major stress. I would lose all respect if found out and feel hopeless. I know that has not happened yet but can't help think of the what if's if I keep going out.
I'm just flustered over the whole thing and drift into periods of wishing it would all just go away. I feel like I am creating this whole unneccessary situation within myself because I cannot handle what I've done and want to do about experiencing my femme self in public. Its like I know what I should do, go back in the closet, that would be the only pratical thing to do. But then am unhappy about having to make that decision.
While I am out and about presenting femme I feel great. Then when I go back to male/real world self is when the stress and guilt sets in. It may be time to seek therapy.