So I know there's thousands of these stories here already, and mine's nothing too special, but I just want to share.
So my amazing and loving girlfriend who's VERY understanding of my CDing (and in fact loves it, and is ATTRACTED to me as a girl also since she's bi) went out in public with me lastnight because a series of conditions were met and the time seemed right. My gf as I said is fine with me dressing, she's just still in the closet about being bi and is the type to worry about what people would think about my CDing (as am I, honestly) so she doesn't want anyone to find out. And she knows A LOT of people in this city so it's hard to ever go out and not run into someone she knows. I had never gone out dressed up in public before this night.
But lastnight, as I said, a series of conditions were met.
- It was late, like past midnight so the streets were mostly empty
- The duplex neighbours were away on vacation
- I was already dressed up
- We were both hungry and didn't want to cook. lol
So we left the house in our car, we avoided me personally interacting with anyone to be safe as we were both also nervous yet excited to be doing this. So we drove to an open late pizza place, I dropped her off at the door and she went in by herself to pick up our order that was made online previously and I parked in the parking lot a few spaces over from another car with two girls in it.
They didn't suspect a thing and didn't pay me any special attention. Neither did the other few late night bar goers and other pedestrians we drove past or parked near. I guess when you over-think things, you worry that everyone's going to know you're a CDer and point, stare, and call you out. Even though my gf admits I pass as a girl fully (visually anyway), and that night she was especially impressed with my outfit and makeup.
We're both less anxious about going out in public with my CDing now, especially her! I think she too realized that no one's going to call me out on possibly being a guy, especially when even she knows I pass and she KNOWs I'm a guy. lol I hope we get to go out again soon, maybe do something that's not so sheltered, but to do it we may have to make a roadtrip to another city. :P And I need to work on my girl voice I think. lol Once I do that we could likely go shopping and everything without a hitch.
Do you all think it's generally "safer" to go out in public with your gf/SO? I always had it in my head that people are less likely to spot a CDer if they're with someone else, because people with negative stereotypes always seem to think we're weird or freaks, and seeing someone that may flag as potentially "not right" in their eyes out with another person is likely to dismiss some sub-concious thoughts about that person being a CDer. Sort of like "well they're with that other person and they're treating them completely normal, they must just be a slightly manly chick or something". lol
Does that theory make sense to anyone else? :P