I have played sports my entire life. Although the body I have is a curse to me, and I hate it, I have used it quite well in athletics, and very much to my benefit. And with this body, my athleticism, my competitive nature, and my aggression, I am used to winning, and having my way when I play.
Although 44, and always the oldest player out there these days with those I play with and against, I still play hard hitting, physical, bruising basketball every week. I am never the tallest, never the strongest, never the quickest, but that has not mattered before because I have always made up for it in talent, skills, focus, intelligence, and a crazy need to win. Still, at 6'4, 220 lbs, it ain't like I'm exactly lacking in size and strength myself.
Or at least, I didn't used to lack in strength.
Having been on HRT now for over ten months, the past two months or so in particular I have noticed that I have lost A LOT of strength that I formerly had. Which is great, because I have also lost some of my dude muscle definition and build, and that has got to go if I have any hope of feminizing my body. So that's all well and good, and it's all going according to plan.
Having played ball again tonight, though, I recognized something that I suppose I have refused to admit to myself until this evening. Players that formerly could not stop me, players that I could shut down, are beginning to own me now. At first, I chalked it all off to lack of focus, being distracted, or whatever other excuses I could come up with.
But the last couple of games in particular, it has become painfully obvious to me - I am being overpowered by men that I have owned for I don't know how long. I am just not strong enough. I can no longer post up strong like I used to even just a few months ago. Dudes that are bigger and stronger than me - I always had enough height and enough strength to make up for it because I was better than them.
Although old to play the type of ball with the type of players I do, I am in excellent health and shape. I may be a little slower than I used to be, and I have lost some of my vertical leap, and my body has taken a lifetime of physical pounding and abuse through such things - but I still got game, skills, and know-how.
Except that tonight, I finally recognized, and admitted to myself for the first time, I can no longer compete at the position I play against these men. They are not any stronger, any bigger, or any better than they were before. But I am weaker. I can no longer stop them. I can't keep them out of the paint. I can't drive the ball down the lane hard and put it up strong any more. I can no longer even maintain my position while posting up.
Simply put, these men are overpowering me, and for the first real time in my life, I can't stop or slow them down. They are big, strong men, and they are now having there way with me, and I almost feel powerless against them.
This recognition, that I have now admitted to myself I can no longer compete at the level I am accustomed to, and that I just can't stop these men really hit me hard tonight. It was weird. Kind of even surreal. I gave tonight everything I had. Everything I had because I recognized what was going on for what it really was. So I clamped down hard, focused more, and tried to make up for it in other ways. But I just could not stop them. Worse, on the other side of the floor, they were able to stop and contain me.
When I ultimately finished up, and left the gym, I was really surprised by how emotional I became when I got in my car to leave. I damn near broke down crying. I could cry right now as I am typing this if I let myself. It's weird. Or perhaps "unexpected" is a better way of putting it.
Regardless, I now fully recognize and understand that this is the beginning of the end of playing competitive basketball with men. I just can't do it anymore. At least not in the manner I am accustomed to.
I suppose, in the end, this is just another price to be paid for going on HRT and beginning the process of transition. It's a price, though, like everything else I have paid to date, that I am willing to pay and am paying as I type these words.
Still, this chapter of my life, this era of competing at a high level in sports against men, is about to close, and close forever, because I can no longer hold my own with them anymore.
Of course, do not get me wrong. As far as my transition plans are concerned, this changes nothing. It is inconsequential, and I shall continue to walk forward down my path.
It does amaze me, though, just how much doing this changes, touches, and effects sooo many different facets and areas of one's life. I mean really and truly, it changes basically everything.