Well, I've been divorced now for 15 years. For most of that time, I've failed miserably at trying to date; being up front about my crossdressing, I always thought that was the 800 pound gorilla keeping me from finding someone new. Yet....I've had a few dates since I put my crossdressing on hold, and have found: Most women are batsh!t nuts. I'd forgotten all about this. The ones that simply won't shut up. The ones who believe in astrology to the point they call in sick and won't even leave the house if 'the stars' say it will be a dangerous day. The diet nuts, who tell me I'm going to die from eating cooked red meat while they eat raw fish. The lady with 12 cats (nuff said). One who truly was psychotic, and luckily was currently on her meds (but she sometimes stops taking them when she needs a 'vacation').
Now the important item. In discussion, I told two about crossdressing; more specific, that I USED TO be a crossdresser. After a bit of discussion, it wasn't seeming to be a problem. Of course, after a couple of dates, their own lunacy seemed to still be way over the top to me, but we wound up not pursuing any further relationship for other reasons. But I found it interesting that the 'USED TO BE A CROSSDRESSER' confession didn't drive them away instantly like telling women that I WAS currently a crossdresser. This brings to the forefront that it may be a way to ease into it when you come out to someone....tell them you USED to do it, and see how they respond from there. For whatever reason, there seems to be a big difference in how women respond to this. I don't know what the reaction would be should I ever admit to having a relapse; I'm not sure I would want to chance it, should I wind up finding someone I like so much that to lose her would really hurt. I haven't reached that point just yet.
But I needed to let everyone here know what's happened so far.