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    Should I do it??

    Well,
    My company has posted that people can come to work in costume on Wednesday Oct 31st. Nobody knows about me where I work. Do I dare become "Connie the secretary" for a day? Who has done it & what has been the response or outcome? Any repercussions, positive or negative??

    Would Love to hear your stories..

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    You should do it. I am slowly learning who the heck cares, do what you like as long as no me gets hurt. Have fun.

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    Connie, please give this matter a lot of thought. I concur with Linda Allen. Dressing for fun@ SCC or clubbing with other cd's occurs in friendly environments . You work in a professional setting where your job career ,reputation and paycheck can be determined by your employer. Dressing for a Halloween event at work is a pleasurable mind game, but it could present problems and consequences for you personally & professionally. Think it through. Hugs, melissa

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    I was thinking 'go for it!' until I read all of the responses. The desire to dress is always intoxicating and an opportunity with a built in cover is especially alluring. Your mind is searching for every reason to validate crossdressing at work. So, if you do it, you'll spend to whole time pretending or denying that you are what you really are. A man that likes to present as a woman. Would you be willing to tell your co-workers that you have dressed for years, which is the truth. Or, you are so good at costumes that you conjured up a fabulous outfit for a one time event, a lie. Personally, I believe that you're going to be clocked big time by people you will face everyday that, even though we live in an age of anti-discrimination and gender sense awareness, subliminal prejudices will always exist. I see a big red line drawn very clearly where I earn my income and I've seen too many times where innocent actions have cost good people the one thing they couldn't afford to lose. Maybe a female portrayal of a more costume-like presentation would be more appropriate for where the paychecks are cut. Or, as I did one year, extreme male on the outside (policeman) and fabulously underdressed in exquisite lingerie (all black lace with locked corset and small forms). Save the AbFab for a more private venue.
    I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
    My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
    And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
    Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!

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    I am with the "Go for it" crowd to an extent. There are a lot of factors at play here that we don't know the answer to that only you can make the final "Go / No go for launch" decision. In addition the first factor as many has pointed out either by experience or just looking out for you. These people pay you. These people that you work with (if they don't know) will know that you do cross dress. Of course you know your environment and the types of costumes that others wear for Halloween. If you think you could get away with it all dressed up in expensive clothes and accessories you may be too convincing and get too much attention.

    Do go and have fun :-)

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    If you do it you must first accept that you will be outing yourself to just about everybody there. If you are ok with that I would say go for it.

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    Go dressed well and they will be impressed.
    Otherwise a costume will suffice.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    Well many years ago I actually went to a chuch costume party dressed as a French Maid. I had fun with it and even answered the door a couple of times most just thought it was cute. I do know one couple figured out I was a CD later on.

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    go for it - you only live once and if you dont you will always wish you did
    have fun

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    Most of us use Halloween as an excuse to 'come out' for the first time. It doesn't normally let the cat out of the bag, and most people will assume it's a one-off for you.

    I'd definitely go for it if you are free to do so.

    M.

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    I agree..... do it.....
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    Life is too short to live with regrets about what you should have worn for Halloween. "Just do it!"

    But if I could make a gentle suggestion, try dressing as "Connie the highly successful and upwardly mobile employee" to avoid offending any administrative types.


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    I agree that you should do it!

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    What an opportunity! If I could do that at my job I'd do it in a heartbeat. If you think it'll go over well and folks will have fun with it I'd go for it. If you think it may somehow turn against you.....you might think again. Just sayin'. Oh heck, just go for it!!!! Have fun!

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    Casper,

    I did not. I decided that there was too much at stake.

    Hugs,

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    That's good Connie.Marie. Its good sometimes to think about it, but with the possible long term aftermath and repercussions, I would say that you made the best choice. For if your co workers saw had great of a job that you do by way of being Connie.Marie, some of your co workers may really catch on. Best to keep it away from them.

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    Of course. You'll have fun. Even more fun if you return to work on Nov 1 in "costume".

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    Every work environment is unique, but I received a very positive response two years ago when I did what you describe. There wasn't an open invitation to come to work in costume, so I arranged to take a day of vacation on Monday, October 31, then sneaked in on Sunday to set up my freshly-decorated workstation at a vacant desk in the reception area. Sandy (short for Cassandra) left a note on the desk apologizing for being unable to get to the office until lunchtime on her first day of work; my co-workers spent Monday morning speculating about the "new girl" while I was getting my hair and makeup done. I arrived bearing a sealed box of Halloween cupcakes from a bakery (as opposed to homemade, as a hedge against a "call security, this crazy transvestite means to poison us" reaction). I took photos with my co-workers, including my fairly bewildered new boss (someone jokingly mentioned using the photos as blackmail, and I said "yes, you do risk being blackmailed by having your photo taken with me"). It was a fun day.
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    Sandy...

    You looked awesome. Any negative reactions from co-workers?
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    You only live once Connie, they may speculate and wonder but if you just act normal and have a fun time they'll never know for sure unless you tell them. On the other hand if you re nervous and uncomfortable it will show and your co workers may speculate you have something you're hiding, so go and be loose and have fun!
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    Quote Originally Posted by BethCD View Post
    You looked awesome. Any negative reactions from co-workers?
    beth
    Thanks for the compliment; as for negative reactions, not really! The women all loved it; one guy was a little stand off-ish, but another guy was entertained by my appearance: he playfully asked "How's it hanging?" and I shot back with an honest "Crammed up there pretty tight, actually!".

    Though the workplace atmosphere was right for me in 2011, even if Halloween hadn't fallen on the weekend in 2009 and 2010, I wouldn't have attempted a female appearance at the office then due to specific unfavorable circumstances at work during those two Octobers (extreme workload & imminent layoffs, respectively). In 2011 the vibe seemed right, and I figured any potential move up the org chart was far enough in my future that I didn't worry about sabotaging my career path. YMMV

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    My attitude about work is not to mess people's perceptions about you. Halloween at work should consist of the most boring costume you can find...like colourful tie or something. Especially if you want to be promoted. It shows you are all business. However, I would do anything at a private party even if co-workers were going as long as its all with good friends. It also depends on who you work with obviously.
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    I might dress in costume at work for All Hallows' Eve, but not as a female character. I'm not prepared to take the risk personally or professionally.

    All it takes is one idiot in a position of authority to screw things over. Employers can invent a reason to dismiss employees without cause almost with impunity.

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    I think you should only do it if you are comfortable with them all knowing, pretty much much at first glance, that you are a crossdresser because that is what will happen.

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    I dressed like this and went to work. Now we are not allowed to play in our casino. I walked up to the craps table and asked if they could show me how to play. I almost got the chance until one of the dealers recognized me. I won first place and second at the bar where this picture was taken. Of course that was 12 years and 50 pounds ago.
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