What need does crossdressing fill in your life?

[Kate Simmons]

What need or purpose does crossdressing fill in your life? I had to ask myself the question before I asked everyone else. At this point, for myself, it fills a need of artistic expression of my feelings. Like most people I also enjoy being admired and this is one vehicle I chose to accomplish that.It also served as a means to be more daring and less mundane in my life and gave me the courage to explore "terra incognita" or unknown territory that I previously would not have had the fortitude to do. Seems like CDing empowered me in many ways and as such has enriched my life overall, especially since it's a total choice for me now rather than a compulsion. So, what need or purpose does CDing fill in your life or do you simply enjoy doing it?

[kimdl93]

I simply see myself when I'm dressed.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kate, All I know is that dressing feels so good when I see that lady looking back in the mirror.

[Carlene]

Whatever it is that we do....dress, walk past the mens clothes without seeing anything on our way to the ladies section, try to be a more gentle and understanding person, walk with a little bounce in our step and so on, just feels so right.

So, I wonder, how can something that feels so right be looked at as so wrong by the public at large? Yet, still, I know that I am okay.

Carlene.....

[Marcelle]

Hi Kate,

Interesting question. Right now I am still trying to figure things out. I have to admit when I first started dressing there was a sexual component but that has given way to more a sensuality while I go through the transformation process. Once everything is complete and I put clothes on I see the feminine side of me and dressing allows me to express that. Probably has something to do with supressing things for so long . . . really not sure but working through that with my therapist.

Right now it is a bit of a compulsion as I like that side of me as much as I like my male side but I get to be boy me all day and Isha only once and awhile. It is likely I will find balance in the future and the compulsion will subside and it will become more of a choice (boy or girl today?).

Hugs

Isha

[Cynthia Anne]

Cross dressing gets me closer to being the person that my brain says I really am!

[Lynn Marie]

I have this classy older lady friend. We enjoy the same music, the same styles, I love the way she looks, and she's very low maintenance. I love going out with her, she's an incorrigible flirt and great fun to be with. I even get to share her clothes and shoes! What could be better than that?

[bridget thronton]

I quite frankly like to be one of the girls when working on project or sitting down for coffee or wine.

[Beverley Sims]

I missed picking up that book of yours when I was in the bookstore the other day.
"1001 thoughtful questions for Cross Dressers".
You have a propensity for asking questions that need thoughtful answers.
That is why I am delaying answering, I am trying to think of a good reply.

Similar to you when I was younger I appeared in a Sunday night talent show for female impersonators.
I won the prize for the night and I liked the artistic aspect of being able to fool people into thinking I was a girl.
I was eighteen then. Later I met my room mates who sub let a house with me and they recognized my qualities very early in the relationship.
A girl was better to have than a guy in the house and it became a public relations exercise.
That is another story that could fill a book.

[garfield9951]

I would say a more relaxed person, who I fell I should be.

[michelle-]

I'm kind of new to this but I've never thought of it as filling me in any way. I don't feel like I have a need to do it. It's more like I'm curious about a side of me and wonder how much could I develop it.

Since I was little, I would play pretend games. If I was alone at home. I would sometimes pretend I was a cop and just arrived at my house and could tell someone had been there. So would move stealthy and check every room before turning the tv on. I'd act a character. A role. I still do this sometimes when I'm home alone. Let my imagination flow.

With time I'd get more into character and dress like the actual cop, or whatever character I was playing. After dressing like a woman for the first time, I started considering playing a female character. And would just walk around my house and do whatever I had to do, but dressed up. So to me it's been more like challenging myself to play a role and try to be as convincing as possible.

Just to be clear, I don't mean to say CD is a game to me. But I do it to play a character. Maybe one day one of my characters will take over my life. I'll be someone I made up full time. Wouldn't that be something?

[suchacutie]

For both my wife and myself, Tina is an adventure to find out who I am and who I have been. In addition, since Tina is my wife's girlfriend we are able to revel in our relationship from a different perspective.

[docrobbysherry]

Try this on for size, Kate. I lived 65 years as a guy. U could say I've done that and it's become pretty boring.

For the last 5 years I've gotten the chance to live a few moments as a hot, young woman. For me, that's different, new, and exciting!

[Alice Torn]

One need, is , that since the women more and more act like men, and dress like them somewhat, it meets the nned, that since they wear the pants, I can wear the dress LOL!

[barbie54s]

I feel relax and happy when I am dress.

[Karren H]

I fills my need to crossdress.... duhhh.... If I knew why I did this I would know what need it filled......

[Steph_CD_62]

If I don't dress on a regular basis, I get grumpy (according to the wife). So I guess what I get out of crossdressing is feeling more comfortable wearing women's clothing and I am happier.

[Eryn]

When I finally acknowledged my status as a CDer I thought of CDing as fulfilling my desire to present myself aesthetically as I wished and wear the beautiful clothing that GGs take for granted. As I have gone out more and more I realize that I also yearned for the unique modes of social interactions that GGs enjoy. I belong to a CDing group where most of the wives also participate and I find it interesting that when the group meets I usually end up in a group of mostly GGs while most of the other CDers tend to group together. I'm sure that a psychiatrist could find something profound in that.

[RobynP]

Not only do I enjoy it, it is extremely helpful to me. I can easily travel to my fantasy world, my fantasy land. A coping mechanism? You bet! My self-image changes 180 degrees!

[gennee]

It's who I am.

[NicoleScott]

Dang, Karren beat me to it. The answer is in the question. Crossdressing fills the need to crossdress. Of course, the question nobody can answer is where does the need come from?

[chrissy111]

My wife says it makes me complete. To me it is an adventure.

[Stephanie47]

For me cross dressing is an escape from my male inner self. I disassociate my physical being from my spiritual being. I enjoy being the male I am now. I am retired. I have no debt. I have a wonderful family. I have it all. Was it like that in the past? No! It was having a mortgage. It was going to work in an environment that was stressful in dealing with co workers and the public. Basically, none of you would want to come to see me. Then, there is the residual effects of having served my country. Nothing more said on that issue for now.

So, Stephanie came to save the day. That person I loathed in the past pushed the male aside and took over to provide relief. Cross dressing has been my savior. Somehow I still feel the serenity and comfort and disassociation from the crap of life that Stephanie has brought in the past. I see now reason to disavow her now. I still enjoy letting her take over this male body.

[Lady Catherine]

Fills the need to let my feminine side out and be free.

[Chickhe]

It is a lot like answering 'why'. So far, I know it provides me an escape and it is a challenge. It is something enjoyable.