I'm with Debby on this...Everything has to be hidden from my unsupporting spouse, so the 'clean-up' after each session has to be very thorough. It has also adversely affected how she feels about me, alas.
M.
I'm with Debby on this...Everything has to be hidden from my unsupporting spouse, so the 'clean-up' after each session has to be very thorough. It has also adversely affected how she feels about me, alas.
M.
ThisOriginally Posted by Melissa in SE Tn
I also "hate" spending money on new clothes. I think of all the clothing purchases I have made in the last year, 95% of them were for women's clothing.
I also agree with others who say that having to hide this side of ourselves, or not having anyone to share it with, is frustrating
Having to stop before I'm ready to. Although I can CD almost anytime I want to there is always the end of the euphoria and sometimes even the surprise need to change back in a hurry.
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Fran
It's worth something just being around to Fuss!
not having enough privacy ??? thats my new gripe.... I need to get my own place again....
For me it might be the fact that I'm 24 and I'm a larger guy in the shoulders so it is super hard to find clothes that look my age and still fit. Darn it! I want to have a cute v neck cap sleeve t shirt that is feminine and fits...
For me, it was all the unflattering photos... So many happy nights of positive self-image, ruined by the harsh (sometimes distorted) truth of the camera lens. I'm starting to realize what some old tribes really meant by the camera stealing your soul. Mirrors I like though.
How long it takes to get ready!!!!!!!!!
Although that is all part of the fun, right?
Having to stop dressing and dress drab for the work world ;( Hugs
Follow your path.. For only you can decide, which way to go.
Poking yourself in the eye with a mascara wand. Ouch!
My coworkers sometimes tease me about being "gay", or being into "weird stuff".
Is there a cross dress vibe we unknowingly give off?
And why do other people care so much anyway?
The worst for me is waiting for everyone to fall asleep so I can play.
Just too big and manly for the clothes I would like to wear. 2x, 1x, 3x? The big clothes are typically not as cute. Then, a 1x works for one top, but a 3x works for another.
The worst thing about crossdressing is possibly the "lack of confidence" so many appear to have. About people staring at you, comments about you, me and all is based on the lack of self-esteem.../ lack of confidence
yes this is not always true and there are other factors that co-exist
yes there are people that are mean
and yes I am sorry it happened to you, however,
From what I get out of all these millions of posts on this website and all that has ever been written ever...
It comes down to "confidence" / "lack of confidence". some have it, some have earned it, many of us are making small steps to get it, and some just can't on their own.
Sad, as adults, as many of us are, it shows what a farce all that we pretend to be and do is. We can be fabulous parents, role models and impact society greatly. Even, and pathetically so in my own case, when we don't have the confidence to do what our hearts, deep inside, tell us to do the most...
And we act like we are all that..
Vanny
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Probably lack of acceptance, perceived or actually. I'd love to be able to dress up in any situation and not be worried about others' opinions.
One of the big hassles for me is having to go drab again.
Especially if I smell like the roses of Picardy, and the won't go away.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Homer Simpson invented a makeup gun that shot a hooker-look onto your face in a flash (literally). Marge survived but was not happy...
I've been reading this thread from last to first and Karren's quote seems to cover it all. None of the problems we describe as the worst thing about crossdressing would be an issue if it were not for our lack of the choice of "having to crossdress"
The regrowth of facial hair after achieving a surgically close shave
The worst thing for me is I'm getting older and can't wear the short skirts any more and I love them.
GLENDA
I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN
Oh why oh why did it have to happen to me!
Hair.
Too much body hair.
And for some of you......too little hair on the ol' noggin.
The guilt and shame, which resulted in low self-esteem and self-hate. Also the anxiety whether crossdressing means more than a fetish and if my girlfriend will accept my crossdressing. I'm pretty much still in the closet and haven't crossdressed for more than 7 years.
I still don't accept myself.
The worst is having to worry about people coming to the house unexpectedly. Also, not being able to buy all the wonderful things I want!
For me, the wore thing is having the non-supportive spouse. All other problems would seem to go away if only I had acceptance from the one I love so much!
Is that there is never enough time to be Jordan I hate my male mode
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