I'm not confused at all. Many women marry a guy with knowledge of all his "faults,' but figure she can change him. On the slip side how many on this forum thought marrying a woman would 'cure' him of cross dressing? I think you did your homework by telling her prior to marriage you cross dress. That was sensible after two failed marriages.
You need to have a sit down and discuss the issue.
Only one failed the other passed away and made me promise to tell anyone that I was serious with about Cding.Originally Posted by Stephanie47
GLENDA
I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN
Only if you make them that way. Or you buy specially pre worn out jeans. GF buys new jeans and if you don't put softener in the washer or dryer, they come out like boards.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
She knew before u got married u dressed. And, it's ok with her as long as she doesn't see u?
U go shopping together and look at fem CLOTHES items that she doesn't wear. But, she doesn't approve of u owning those things?
She knows u have fem clothing and that's ok unless they r frilly or fancy? Maybe she means "sexy"?
U don't need help from us, Glenda, but from HER! Find out exactly what she wants, what she expects, and what she can't live with. Then, u tell her the same from your side. U need to understand each other a lot better! Then, come to a reasonable compromise. "Compromise" means EACH party gives up something to get along. That's how marriages/partnerships work. When one dictates to the other what the rules r, it's NOT a partnership anymore!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Almost sounds like she is ok with you dressing, as long as you don't wear nicer clothes than she does...
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