Crossdressing ignites an explosive sexual feeling in me that i cant control,i sometimes feel i only do it for this reason,is it this feeling that gives me the drive to push the boundarys i.e going out dressed (which i do and on my own as i dont have any like minded friends).
What im trying to say is i know i am not in to having sex man on man but when im en femme i fantasise about being a full time girl and being taken and treated like a women by a man im soo confused....
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Ya that happens to me also and it is just a GREAT feeling inside.
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From my experiences after puberty the sexual urge begins, I started CD'ing well before that process began, it will last, but usually fades after a number of years. I still get an extra sexual urge when I'm enfemme, but to me it is less emcompassing than it was previously. I now do not date GG, and haven'y done so in years. best Wishes Darlin. You loo fantastic.
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Hi Arlene and nhlighthouse,is it that as crossdressers or t.v's are we constantly chasing that deep strong feeling we first got when say trying on lingerie/pantyhose/stockings for the first time?sorry im just trying to get to the bottom of things in my head.. x
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I've always thought it was the "fires together, wires together" theory of our brains. I know I started young and it was very exciting. Once I reached an age where sexual desire and behavior entered into it, it became even more so. Excitement + sexual urges = strong reinforcement for you brain. Lots of chemical flowing around up there. It might fade it time, it might be a life long thing. How you're feeling is pretty normal I think. Give yourself some freedom, experiment if it feels right. Have fun and be safe.
For some , crossdressing is a fetish. Dressing is a sexual thrill. For me it's never been a sexual thrill of dressing, sure it's nice to look nice, but I find pantyhose to be a necessary evil LOL.
I know what you mean I'm not into man on man either. But when in fem I would not rule out a girl on girl. I feel if I attracted a girl or lesbian it reinforces the feeling that I pass as fem. I've had a couple bi-lesbians affairs that turned out good.Originally Posted by nylon boy
Crossdressing ignites an explosive sexual feeling in me that i cant control,i sometimes feel i only do it for this reason,is it this feeling that gives me the drive to push the boundarys i.e going out dressed (which i do and on my own as i dont have any like minded friends).
What im trying to say is i know i am not in to having sex man on man but when im en femme i fantasise about being a full time girl and being taken and treated like a women by a man im soo confused....
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Your brain is hard-wired (why, I don't know), to interpret cross-dressing as actual contact with a female. This means that when you cross-dress (or just anticipate cross-dressing), your brain will respond as if you were in contact with a real female. Your brain will release dopamine and other neurotransmitters which produce the sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification, and bonding. It will affect the reward centers of your brain, instant gratification, and thus it mimics the addiction response.
Your sensations are real. A similar response can be found in patients given dopamine for medication (as in Parkinson's).
That would explain my reactions to dressing at home in private, Confucious. It's a confused mess of female fantasies, (imagining I'm with them and that I am one), and the visual attraction of my image.
But, that doesn't explain why straight men would fantasize, consider, or actual have sex with a male.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
It is a natural urge that has driven most of us in our earlier days.
Too much testosterone I think.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
I agree with Beverly..That it is natural .... But for the run of the mill cder ( non Trans ) we are men and men are sexually driven... I am attracted to the Feminine aspect of it ,I am and always have been attracted to very feminine women this is what still drives me...
I do not!! Claim to be an expert on any topic, when I post a new thread or reply on any thread my imput is strickly that of a crossdresser. Not to offend Gay people , Transexuals or any other life style, I am only commenting on one of my own.
The whole CDing thing is a fantasy for many of us, and sexually exciting to boot. It's fun to fantasize, even for straight guys expanding the CDing by playing "what if" games in their mind. Doc, I think it does explain why straight men fantasize about having sex with a man - it validates a CDer's transformation that a man would find a CDer attractive. It's just a fantasy.
I agree Lucy! I am attracted to females, and dressing makes me feel closer to them.
If I had the answer, I Would at the Mayo Clinic? Does this look like the Mayo Clinic?
After all it is just a fantasy. And sometimes a fantasy is better left a fantasy.
If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
Because (judging from your description here) you're a textbook case of a fetishistic cross-dresser (among other things I'm sure)? Don't overthink this, one of your motivations for cross-dressing seems to be autogynephilia (i.e. love for yourself as a woman) and from that it's not hard to imagine love for yourself as a woman in a sexual act as a fantasy. You don't have be sexually attracted to men to have those feelings, because the focus lies on yourself as a woman.
I agree 100%. My sexual feelings also EXPLODE inside me. I have never acted upon my fantasies. I do not have the courage,
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For a long time when I was younger it was that way for me also.
Somewhere along the line it all changed. It was gradual, not a revelation, but it did change. Maybe I 'matured' or whatever you might call it, but it's no longer that huge turn-on, it's just me being me and loving it.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I would say, because its your fetish
In my humble opinion- the fact that the overwhelming majority of CDs are heterosexual, underscores the reason many of us get a sexual thrill from dressing: We simply Love the way women look! They are wonderful! Beautiful convex curves smoothly transitioning in concave surfaces here and there, softer and more decorated, often unaware (or are they?) of the effect of their looks- in some ways you might even consider crossdressing to be the ultimate tribute to the beauty of the female body.
The female body has connotations of sexuality- breasts (for feeding babies as the result of sex), hips to better carry and deliver a baby, subcutaneous fat smoothing out the skin provides a reserve of energy to help the mother stay healthy while pregnant and feeding newborns.
Many (both natural and learned) 'female' mannerisms are related to this as well, including flirting and such, designed to attract mates for sex, and to keep them around to help raise and protect the family.
Shaving your legs and wearing stockings mimic or accentuate the smooth skin of females, most female clothing has some distinguishing aspects that draw our attention to what we consider 'female' differences to males, and a significant proportion of the clothing is designed to accentuate and draw attention to the same.
Remember that sex is in the brain- and everything else is just sensory nerve endings, so a lot of it has to do with what you perceive and cogitate. I'd be surprised if someone did not have sexual feelings about the crossdressing and the feminine actions & demeanor, but at the same time it is realized that sexuality has different meanings and connotations for different people.
Nylon Boy, you are not alone. As a child my sexual exploration was via cross dressing in lingerie and because of that my cross dressing has a very large fetishistic element to it. I find that I am aroused by the look and feel of certain fabrics. Soft nylon or shiny satin are a strong trigger. I have one partial memory as a child sitting in a friends garage next to a bag of clothes and on top was a shiny satin blouse. The urge to feel that fabric was overwhelming and associated with a strong sexual arousal.
Don't be confused or upset by this feeling. It is shared by many others.
In my dressing, I'm emulating my dream girl. She's a turn on, that's why she's my "dream girl". She wears stockings, garters, and heels. That really gets my attention.
Okay, so it's not as sexual as it was a few years ago, but it's still quite erotic!
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I have to agree with so many of the previous responses. Lynn Marie's response nailed it for me. I also try to emulate my dream girl image. Also, my dressing began well before puberty and the feelings I got then were from the fabrics, and the image of being a female. Then, of course the erotic sensations began with the onset of puberty and have subsided to a great degree over the decades. I still get a sexual rise when dressing, but much less so then in my youth.
Darlin,
I had my first same gender experience at around the age of 56, this come after nearly 50 years of CD'ing. Being I had dreamed. one hundred or more time since that age of having a man adore me and want me to be his wife. What it all means I don't have the foggiest, but I love the way I live and wouldn't give it up for the world.
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I have also read that in time sexual arousal can last for many hours as we age and for those of us who may have sexual fetishism's this can result to many hours of being dressed ..Although it may start out as a passing fad of wearing the clothing for a few short minutes then getting the arousal over with .. It can and does grow in time you may also find new ways to add to the arousal to your sexual fetishism by emulating the desired object more..
Erotic stimuli may originate from a source unrelated to the object of subsequent sexual interest. For example, many people may find nudity, erotica or pornography sexually arousing,[3] which may generate a general sexual interest which is satisfied with sexual activity. When sexual arousal is achieved by or dependent on the use of objects, it is referred to as sexual fetishism, or in some instances a paraphilia.
I do not!! Claim to be an expert on any topic, when I post a new thread or reply on any thread my imput is strickly that of a crossdresser. Not to offend Gay people , Transexuals or any other life style, I am only commenting on one of my own.
Since the onset of puberty for me, my dressing has always had the sexual arousal component to it. That's not to say that I have never just dressed to dress and feel comfortable or that dressing doesn't provide me with something more than just sexual gratification. While perusing dozens of older postings on this site, I have read many times about how, eventually, the arousal diminishes as we age. I haven't noticed that at all. I'm 48 now (36 years of sexual arousal from CDing) and it is still as it was way back then. I wonder if it will ever diminish. Not that I'm actually hoping it does. It's still a pretty much every day thing for me.
Also, like Madilyn, if I am near certain fabrics, or even just any type of female clothing, especially in department stores, I feel the arousal instantly. Same thing goes for seeing an attractive woman on TV in a dress or lingerie or whatever. Those beauty pageants are killer for me with the long, glamorous gowns. Over the years it seems that it has taken less and less for me to get worked up.
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