It has been slightly less than 8 weeks. Since I came out to my wife. If you have read my initial post of coming out to my wife. I've comment on a few others threads, about this.
Has it been a relief for me,,yes.For my wife, yes in that I am happier. " by coming out you have changed the energy of this house for the better" My wifes quote. But I know this hasn't been an easy time for her.
There are still the lingering,,,When's the next shoe going to fall? Quite understandable, after the amount of time I lived a lie.
She is an amazingly adaptable , women. One that i admire with awe, each thing she has encounter and over come with a resolve that would break most men.We have set our Boundries, and they have been adjusted as needed.
She is so helpful to me in finding the balance point Aretha needs. I know there are benefits to this coalescing of Aretha/I . We do joke around more. We laugh, talk. And by letting my feminine emotions come more to the forefront .I see and sense better. The confusion I have caused. Yes there is still the visual, of her man in girlie underwear. Yes I know it is such a sensory overload at times for her.
But I am now so much more hopeful of our future together. But this is only because of our past(the trials and tribulations tempered in the fires of our life together)If it wasn't for that history, and the things we endured together. We could well be on our way separately.
So to those contemplating coming out. It is full of bumps in the road, of a road never traveled before. I came out for my own reason, and circumstances. As my wife said , You now own it. Yes iam a transgendered crossdresser.
Nothing soothes me more than hearing my wife laugh and then say "Hey Aretha It's getting a little foggy in here" And I know she views our household , as a lot happier place to be now. Hugs Aretha
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