Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 52

Thread: Has Anyone Ever Thought About "The End"?

  1. #1
    Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Location
    NW Ohio
    Posts
    416

    Has Anyone Ever Thought About "The End"?

    This question is mostly for CDs or non-transsexuals.

    Not trying to harp on or bring up the idea of death, but has anyone ever thought about how they would like to be buried, either in male clothing or female clothing?

    If you have thought about this, have you or are you going to put your final wishes regarding this in your will? Does it even matter to you? Are yourwishes known to someone else? If you haven't thought about this, yet, how would you want to be buried, in drab or enfemme? Do you already have your "coffin dress" or whatever you want to wear?

    Sorry for the morbidity. Just curious.

  2. #2
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Location
    Southern Alberta
    Posts
    1,589
    I don't care what happens when I'm dead and gone. My SO might cremate me in a dress or decide I need some payback punishment and burn me in a Sears Sucker Suit.
    Either way it won't matter as I'll be dead and all that matters is what I do while I exist here on earth.

  3. #3
    Rachel Rachelakld's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Location
    New Zealand
    Posts
    4,450
    Main personality is male, like to go out in battle, or die at the gym while posing for a group of young attractive girls who try CPR on me. Burn me naked and stiff
    See all my photos, read many stories of my outings and my early days at
    http://rachelsauckland.blogspot.co.nz

  4. #4
    Senior Member Robin777's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Location
    Central Ohio
    Posts
    1,623
    I am like Launa, I don't care how I am buried or cremated. I'm dead so I won't care how I go. If I die dressed up I will be happy.

  5. #5
    Gold Member Cynthia Anne's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    Mo. Ozarks
    Posts
    6,746
    Even though I consider myself TS, due to too many health problems I will never be able to move forward and be the girl I know that I am! I have decided not to be selfish and be buried as the father of my children! I think down deep they would prefer that!
    If you don't like the way I'm livin', you just leave this long haired country girl alone:

  6. #6
    Julie Gaum Julie Gaum's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    Lake Worth, Florida
    Posts
    647
    Des, this OP has been covered before however it's a good idea to do it from time to time as the youngsters here, understandably, don't look ahead too far. So to start off, since I'm now alone for the first time in 57 years I needed to have everything in black & white, Salvation Army will get everything left after an executor (a lawyer in my case) carries out distribution. Rather than go into further details, and one must go into details including a "living will" that everyone MUST have now,
    I will be buried in male garb. Everybody has a different reason for that decision --- mine is pragmatic: The VA takes care of me now, I've bought a casket at local funeral home, and though I have three locations possible from family plot to cousin's plot to one waiting in Washington State --- Washington is picked for the ocean at my feet and mountains behind (Silly isn't it?), a military funeral with a missing-plane flyover. One could say that nobody will see me once I leave Florida behind but it's a feeling I have. Ironically, the title of my book will be on the tombstone so what am I hiding? Those are the decisions we need to make ahead of time.
    Julie

  7. #7
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    A bit south of the 49th!
    Posts
    23,676
    Believe it or not, this question has come up a number of times since I joined almost four years ago. Some express concerns about having their secret revealed after death, others about whether their final outfit will be pretty. For me, neither question is relevant. I can't control what people think about me now, so why worry about after I'm gone. And my attire won't matter now bit.I oils prefer to be composted and recycled to nourish the planet I've been living on for so many years.
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

    Eleanor Roosevelt

  8. #8
    Some Where In Time MssHyde's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Location
    N.W. PA. area
    Posts
    1,308
    I came into this world with nothing, I still have most of it left!

    I feel it would be best if I was buried in the closet
    Carpe Noctem

    Cheyenne Hyde

    "You may never exceed, your own expectations, of yourself"

    http://s46.photobucket.com/user/MsHyde2u/library/
    (the password is feminine)

  9. #9
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Indiana
    Posts
    7,094
    I do not claim a solid gender label. With passing on, I would rather be buried in a dress. Buried upside down so my friends can stop by for a cold one.
    It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.

  10. #10
    Full-Time Duality NathalieX66's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    Northeast U.S.A
    Posts
    3,946
    I don't care if people know my girl side. OK..... Now everyone knows.

    Good. Fine. Done.

    I don't need a legal name change or a tombstone with a female name. I did it my way. Just cremate me, celebrate with a toast of hopefully something strong, like cognac, whiskey or rum, I don't care, and throw my ashes in to the Atlantic Ocean......which seems to be the tradition for my family these days.

  11. #11
    Aspiring Member Amy R Lynn's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Location
    Akron, Ohio
    Posts
    517
    Interesting question. I haven't really thought that far ahead, but you never know when that will be. When the end comes for me, I'm certain that I want to be cremated. I think its silly to be planted in the ground. For what? I've told most people that I know that I want to be cremated. If they would like a memorial to visit, find a nice park, dig a hole, put my ashes in there, and plant a good solid tree (like an oak tree) in my ashes. When the tree grows, it will grow with me.

    As far as what I'll be wearing at the viewing.... I really could care less. As long as I'm not in my underwear or naked. If I progress to the point where everyone sees me in a dress all the time, and that is how they want to remember me. I'm good with that. However, I'm thinking that they will want to remember me as a man. So either way I'm good.
    "Oh my God, I realized, it's not that we're screwed up; it's just that we've been trained to thnk so."
    ~Rick Novic, Alice in Genderland

  12. #12
    Adventuress Kate Simmons's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    The Poconos PA
    Posts
    18,971
    It really wouldn't matter since I'd be dead and would have no control over my physical remains. I have made it known to close family that I'd prefer the most expedient method available for disposition. Any memorial service would be entirely up to them.
    Second star to the right and straight on till morning

  13. #13
    erica lynn stone erica12b's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Grand junction, colorado
    Posts
    954
    I have a friend she wants me to dress at her place and leave my stuff there ,she knows im in the closet and wants to protect my kids , just in case somthing should happen . (I wish she was closer and i could but she is not there very much and our sceduals never match )
    I like my femself; it makes me feel more civilized, i think girltime should be a requirment for all kids.

  14. #14
    Diamond Member Persephone's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    On the road in an RV, homebase Texas
    Posts
    6,751
    Ths is a very serious question for many and there is certainly no "one size fits all" solution.

    Unless things change, I assume I'll be buried in my currently legal (male) name. But I'm pretty sure there will have to be a couple of funerals or memorial services, one for "him" and one for "me" since there are some folks who only know me as a guy and some who only know me as a woman.

    There are only two things I really care about. First, I want them to make definite sure that I'm dead before they bury me. And two, I definitely do not want to be buried wearing a girdle!

    Hugs,
    Persephone.
    "If you are living the life you want to live you've successfully transitioned to being the person you want to be." - Eryn.

    "If you truly care about me you should damn well want for me what I want for myself" - Michael Westen (Burn Notice)

    -.-. --.-/-.-. --.-/-.-. -../ Persephone™ and Persephone™ are trademarks of Persephone herself, accept no substitutes. The terms "en femme" and "en drab" originated with Marcia Sampson/Staylace (OBM).

  15. #15
    Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Location
    NW Ohio
    Posts
    416
    Quote Originally Posted by Julie Gaum View Post
    .......................to one waiting in Washington State --- Washington is picked for the ocean at my feet and mountains behind (Silly isn't it?),
    Julie
    No, I don't think that is silly at all. Sounds lovely to me. Thanks for your pragmatic response. I noticed that pretty much every topic imaginable has been covered at some pint in the archived past threads.
    Last edited by Desirae; 12-04-2013 at 10:31 PM.

  16. #16
    Living in CD Heaven Helen Grandeis's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    I only rarely check in
    Posts
    1,690
    I would like that my body be fully consumed for transplant purposes and medical research; however, I don't think that my survivors will be very aggressive in execution of that wish particularly since our religion believes in the literal resurrection of the dead. I will probably buried in my full dress white US Naval Officer uniform (affectionately known as choker whites)

    There are several in the forum who are acquainted with both sides of the coin. I hope that they will pass on news of my demise.
    Best Wishes for Personal Peace & Happiness
    -
    Helen Grandeis

  17. #17
    Swans have more fun! sandra-leigh's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2006
    Location
    Central Canada
    Posts
    7,322
    I haven't conveyed my wishes to my SO or family yet, but I do not want my services to be as a male; and I want my obit to list "Sandra" explicitly (better yet, first); and I want my services to be open to my CD and TG and TS and gender-queer friends.

    Part of the reason I haven't conveyed these to my family as yet is that the family grave (my father only, so far) is on land owned by a religion which I do not wish to be construed as being a member of (even if I was when I was a child.) There are two Big Lies that I am concerned about happening to me after I am gone: pretending that I am male, and pretending that I am a member of that religion (or any related to it).

  18. #18
    Senior Member 5150 Girl's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    Zanesville OH
    Posts
    1,536
    I've told my Polar Bear what dress I want berried in.

  19. #19
    heaven sent celeste26's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    Salem, Oregon
    Posts
    1,862
    All of the ceremonies after death are for the living people since the dead dont really care anymore. Let them believe whatever it is they believe about me, I'll be long gone and wont care what they do.
    Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. Mark Twain

  20. #20
    Aspiring Member Brooklyn's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    563
    Apparently you can have your ashes made into diamonds now, so maybe I can be eternalized into some ladies body-piercings? Seriously, if I'm not remembered as Ashley at my memorial service, someone REALLY messed up!
    Life is an endless struggle full of frustrations and challenges, but eventually you find a hairstylist you like.

  21. #21
    Just a touch of class Lynn Marie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    NW Washington State
    Posts
    2,898
    I used to think that I wanted to purge my entire enfemme wardrobe to the dumpster before I died so people that knew me would have pleasant memories. As I age, most of those people who I was concerned about no longer matter! My closest friends are CDs and I hope they'll have a great time picking over my wardrobe and accessories! As for my body, make me into organic fertilizer.

  22. #22
    Isn't Life Grand? AllieSF's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Location
    San Francisco Area
    Posts
    11,686
    My only requirement is that I am cremated and my ashes scattered in the nearest large body of water. I do not care how they decide to dress me.

  23. #23
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Location
    Netherlands
    Posts
    1,439
    I guess two things are important when I'm dead: "How can I still support those I leave behind "and "How do I want to be remembered". I don't think that a request to be 'dolled up' post mortem will make a positive contribution to either of those. My physical remains actually are of no importance at all, to me at least. I'm an organ donor, but after that my relatives can dispose of my body as they see fit.

  24. #24
    Silver Member linda allen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    4,924
    A while back, my inlaws spent over $10K that they couldn't afford on a funeral and burial. That's without the stone. They could have found a far better use for that money.

    When I die, I will be dead and won't care so it's up to my wife and children what to do with my body. They can burn it or donate it to science.
    [SIGPIC]http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/image.php?type=sigpic&userid=82706&dateline=137762 0356[/SIGPIC]Linda

  25. #25
    Miss Conception Karren H's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Location
    South Western PA
    Posts
    24,704
    I have thought about it way too much.... having just attended a good friends funeral yesterday.... he sure didn't care what he was wearing... neither will I....
    Current Obsession - Breasts and Lingerie!

    .......My Photos

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State