I live in Tennessee, and I'm curious to see if anyone knows if my wife can use cross-dressing as grounds for divorce. She has never actually seen me nor does she have pictures or any type of proof, other than my coming out to her and admitting it. I think in court it would be her word against mine if I deny it, but i'm curious as to does anyone else have an experience like this
All she has to do is say she wants one. Irreconcilable differences. There is no need to prove anything more than "I want a divorce"
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/s.../Tenn_Laws.htm
All I ever wanted was to be a girl. Is that really asking too much?
I wouldn't worry about it Rick, it's really kind of a nonissue. If thinking about her bringing it up in court bothers you I wouldn't even try to deny it, just say "so NOW you don't like it?" lOL
I've dealt with it in a few different situations like that and what feels uncomfortable about it for me was simply worrying about being judged. If you act like it isn't a big deal and that she's using it against you for her favor now it will actually backfire on her.
Even if it came to that fear that you have now you wouldn't be the first or last person, nor would anyone even really care, they've heard it all in the courtroom.
"In our lives, change is unavoidable, loss is unavoidable. In the adaptability and ease with which we experience change, lies our happiness and freedom."
"My actual gender identity emerged as I healed from the scars of childhood not because of those scars" - Kelly J
Times have changed Rick intelligent people do not look down on us as they did years ago..Chances are she would be looked down upon for even thinking as such.Courts only go by what the laws are and where I live it's a no fault state maybe the same is for you..
Also....You may never know what that judge is wearing under that robe ..
Last edited by Lucy_Bella; 12-07-2013 at 03:31 PM.
I do not!! Claim to be an expert on any topic, when I post a new thread or reply on any thread my imput is strickly that of a crossdresser. Not to offend Gay people , Transexuals or any other life style, I am only commenting on one of my own.
Your word against hers...and the internet records she'll bring up showing the time you've spent in pages such as these.
Doesn't seem like denial is such a good strategy. Besides, as others have said, it probably won't matter in the scheme of things.
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
I guess my question is, Do YOU want a divorce too?
The phoenix has risen the old life is gone
A new life to live has finally begun
There is fun to be had and work to be done
My beauty is radiant my freedom is won
Rick, if divorce is on the table, you have deeper issues to face than cross dressing. There is nothing illegal about cross dressing and the courts recognize this. As others have well-stated, work on your marriage. It's worth saving--even if you have to put dressing aside for awhile. I went through this very thing not long ago and it takes a lot of time to work through it. It's worth the effort.
Well said Lara
I would stop cross-dressing entirely if it could save my marriage. Our relationship is far more important to me than any sexual fetish, I love her more than anything in life.
I remember Karen Hutton's quote.
"Anything is grounds for divorce".
If you wish to save a marriage, you have to have tolerance and work through ALL the missunderstandings that have precipated arguments.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
When I was going through a divorce from my 1st wife, I was open to my lawyer about my crossdressing. I was going for custody of our kids since she just packed up and moved 1/2 way across the country. I asked my lawyer if my crossdressing would be an issue in getting custody of our kids and he asked me if I did it in front of them. I told him of course not, then he said it would not be an issue. This was 17 years ago and I would assume the laws are more open minded.
My divorce took place in Nebraska and I am not sure what the laws in Tennessee are.
So I guess my advice is........ If divorce is unavoidable then talk to a lawyer and be honest with him/her about your crossdressing and they can advise you on what to do or not to do.
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