Thanks Nadine, your question has stirred up a lot of thoughts and emotions.
I've been with my SO for over 30 years, I CD'ed as a child and was not actively dressing when I met her.
We now share everything, but when CD'ing resurfaced long into our relationship, there is something inside me
that wants, or needs, to keep it to myself. I imagine life would be so much easier if she were to know, and was OK with it, but the risk of losing her and what we have built together is far to big of risk to take and find out she is not.
Thanks again for sharing your opinion.