Divorced two years now. Being single is something I find highly overrated.
Divorced two years now. Being single is something I find highly overrated.
My Wife passed away about 9 months ago. She was OK with my dressing, we where married for 19+ Years.
I would love to hook up with a new special someone.
Rader
Been divorced 11 years now dont like it but I cant find a girlfriend that is ok with my form of cd always up front and truthful about it dont want no secrets or lies
Been single all my life, I had one "almost" girlfriend that was ok with it, but we never dressed together at all. I have told my therapist and a few others with the idea of giving it up. I do not presently have any in person friends who are accepting of it at all.
Finding the other side of me.
I am very careful about sharing it with anyone, unless i percieve they would not be harsh and condemning. I did make the mistake a few times, but also have shared it with some women, who were less judgmental, or somewhat accepting. None of them were hugging and kissing me about it, though. One lesbian lady hugged and kissed me, but she is in a relationship already. I have nothing to offer a GG , but friendship, as I am out of work, on disability, and cannopt make ends meet. Shame on me for buying so many dresses!LOL. I do need to cut spending on everything. I am getting my phone and internet disconnected this next week, to try and survive financially, and not be homeless again! No way can i have a GF, or wife.
No need to share it. I would prefer it, however, if it weren't deemed such a negative by society, thus requiring having to hide it.
Also, when I have been attached, the need to dress has always disappeared for the duration.
Audryanne, You are the first person i have seen aon here, that has said that, it disappeared, when attached! I hope that happens for me, if ever again i have a GF. I know that is not the case for most, though.
There are times where I wish some one else knew, but then there are times where I'm glad no one else knows.
Always being single, it would be nice sharing my crosdressing with someone..I usually get my best looks when I dress to impress a guy something that hasn't happen lately
Single, never married, haven't been out on a date in about 100 years. No one knows about Joan except the staff at the nail salon, the wax center, the spa where I go for facials and massages and the GG's I exchange gifts with and one neighbor. Otherwise my dressing is a big secret.
[Why do I insist on regaling you all with these walls of text? Sorry.]
When you do, you show us how CDing fits into your life and how you have adapted. I for one found this post to be fascinating. We all adapt in, it seems, an infinite number of ways and adjust ourselves to the world and the world to ourselves, in ways that we can find the most happiness. I hope you continue to post. Although you may think it's pointless or a waste of your time or ours, it is still helpful to many others who may identify with your struggles and it can give them a sense of someone somewhere who feels as they do. Please continue to regale!!!
My own story's kind of messed up. I'm 48.. Single never married.
Thing is, really, I've never even tried to date or have a relationship except for the time when I was 18 (post
high school). So technically, I somewhat had a GF then.. But I was socially "dumb" thruought school. Add to
that, even at 18 I also was...er technically dumb in the intimacy dept as well. (Probably the only thing I really
hated about my upbringing with no good education from either school or parents about the birds + bees).
Anyways.. Due to all this, in the end, this one was basically playing me for a fool and it ended.
So.. 30 years later and I've still never even tried to get a GF.
It's not that I wouldn't like to have a relationship though. Lord knows I'd love to find someone.
And after so many holidays being around my friends (all who are married) it's been pretty depressing.
But I've just been socially inept to do anything about it to do real well communication-wise
or to take any initiative.
(Psychiatrists would probably have a field day with me...I can see that aside from being a persona for
the fun of dressing, Kacey's probably a bigger 'escape' for me too.)
So with that info out there, my answers are:
At this point, yes I've wanted to share. Although it's limiting in options, I've thought that if I did find
someone, it'd have to be with them knowing the whole me + Kacey. Just plain too much hiding of things
all around, and I'm not going to suppress a part of me just for having a partner.
On my limited family and friends...I have told my family (only mom is pretty much left) who handled it very well.
On friends, I really have 6-7 moderately close ones. I think 2 suspect already. They knew about my Halloween
foray into CDing with the maid outfit and made some great comments about it then. One (gal), Something
came up when we were out shopping and I picked up a wine Gift package for myself (stand was a leopard
printed high heeland she brought up a 'you aren't hiding a secret life are you?' question.
Didn't answer then really.. But I haven't brought it up yet since.
I'd thought about telling her at least officially. I'm moderately certain she'd deal with it OK.
I know this response was extra wordy. But my feeling is more on the side that
1: I yam what I yam and I'm not going to drastically change (or cut off CDing) just to have companionship.
2: I am not one to lead anyone on to waste another's time by holding off till later to tell her.
So I'd be letting any potential partners know right away what they're in for. (Caring person, but a psych mess
and a CDer
Ashley Smith I like your comment, "have met 4-5 women who are attracted to MtF CDers. I think they are more in the closet than we are!" Gee, I'll bet you are absolutely right about women that are attracted to cross dressers. Would love to hear both the ones you did meet some day. If you ever fell like sharing - shoot me a PM
Single with roommates here. I'm not sure how it'd go over with them but I've had the desire to go to the local gay hotspot during drag night all dressed up.
I am about as single and unattached as they get. I am dying to have a friend to share my cding with. Preferable a gg but a cd friend close to home would be nice also. I attempted to tell my last gf but she used it against me in the end. I guess it kind of makes me a bit gunshy to try again.
Erica
I am quite happy being single after a long relationship, I really need to sort myself first before even considering another relationship and they would be informed about by gender variance very early on.
Just wondering where and how did you meet these woman. I am sure they do exist, in fact I remember once I was watching a TV show and a reporter was asking random people on a busy street about what turns them on on a partner, one cute and pretty good lookin woman's answer was man cross dressing.Originally Posted by Ashley Smith
No secrets here... I haven't dated in years but have met 4-5 women who are attracted to MtF CDers. I think they are more in the closet than we are!
I am normally a very private person on even everyday topics. I seriously do not think I would ever share my crossdressing with anyone.
I'm transgender...and I'm attracted to women. Funny how that equation is.
I don't think that is odd. I am in a similar boat. I am a gay woman, female at birth. I generally feel like a woman inside, except when I feel like a man. When I have sex with women, my more masculine energy comes out and I feel, like a phantom limb, male equipment. It is visceral. I have always been attracted to women and to CDs. When I feel attracted to women I feel like a lesbian or like a straight man. When I feel attracted to CDs I feel like a gay man, like a butch gay male top. I have always watched gay male porn along with other porn. Usually, I like the gay male porn more. This has been an issue for most of my adult life and I decided to join this site to try and figure out what the heck all of this means, if anything, because I am currently single and have been for a long time. I wouldn't want to explore this area if I had a partner. It's super confusing. I literally feel like two different people inside sometimes and it's maddening.
I think you are right. I find that the lesbian community is very accepting of trans folk. There are lesbian butch-femme dating sites and bulletin boards where lots of MtF trans folk meet butch and femme women to date or make friends with and find relationships.No secrets here... I haven't dated in years but have met 4-5 women who are attracted to MtF CDers. I think they are more in the closet than we are!
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