Hi all,
There have been plenty of threads about how we (CDers) feel when dressed (fully or partially). Normally the responses relate to expressing various feelings/emotions, actions or past-times. However, an interesting thing occurred yesterday when I went out with two GG friends who were meeting Isha for the first time . . . so bear with me as I recount and lay the framework for the challenge.
I met my friends for lunch with another GG friend who has already met Isha. We went through the normal niceties and question answering period then settled down for lunch. About halfway through the meal and great conversation, one of my friends turns to me and says "I have to admit I was expecting a whole different person when I came here" I asked her what she meant and she expanded that with the exception of the clothes, make-up, mannerisms and voice, it was like she was having lunch with "boy me". The conversation was the same, the feelings were the same and humor was the same. My other friends all agreed that it was just me with a different shell.
So . . . this got me thinking. Do we really change when we dress (regardless of extent of dressing)? Are we more male or more female? Now before anyone gets on the "gender" bandwagon and points out the glaringly obvious (what's between your legs), this is not what I am referring to . . . I get genetics. My challenge revolves around you as a person and how you feel. This is also for GGs and TSs to ponder as I believe it is salient to all on this forum.
The Challenge:
Do you feel "male" or "female". Sounds easy right? But here are the "arcs of fire". You cannot default to:
1. Genetics (that is a given - you are either genetic male or female)
2. Physiology (you cannot state what is between your legs)
3. Clothing choice: We all get that clothing can define a person's look. Dresses are for girls and not for boys. However this is what society has dictated not some natural law defining male/female.
4. Mannerisms/Feelings: Yes some mannerisms are more feminine than masculine but in the end they are just that mannerisms. Feelings . . . well, I posit that we can all feel a wide range of emotions and not one is particular to men or women.
5. Past-times/Hobbies and the Likes: Can these truly be male or female only? I know lots of men who enjoy stereotypical female past-times and vice versa. So can a past-time truly define male/female?
In fairness, I pondered this question all yesterday after leaving my friends. I could not answer it with any one thing. While to the outside world I am a male trying to present female, that is just society's constraint placed on me. If I don't use the "arcs of fire" above to define me I am left with the me that has always existed "pre" and "post" Isha. I am just a person with various wants, desires, likes, emotions and so forth. No magic beans or pixie dust here where I transform into a woman with mythical female qualities. Just me with as my friend said "a different shell". In the end I don't truly feel male or female . . . I just feel like the person I was meant to be.
So once you strip the above physiology/genetics/ and stereotypes away what are you left with to define male or female? I would argue that if you look past the superficial you will see a "person" plain and simple. We can all do things to make ourselves feel feminine just like we can do things to make ourselves feel masculine but in the end we don't change who we are.
As a final note I want to wish you and your families a Happy Holiday season. Stay safe and enjoy.
Hugs
Isha