A question was raised (by me) in Veronica's "...Lost Bet" thread:
"Can a guy be a CDer if he never crossdressed?"
Rather than get that thread off-track, a new thread.
I know some people see it as what you do rather than what you are. That is, some see themselves as TG (oh how I dislike using that term, so let's say Gender Non-Conforming), not CDer, but crossdress is what they DO to express their internal feminine identity. I'm Ok with being called a crossdresser.
To the topic: If a guy had this "innate desire" to crossdress but never did for any of several reasons (fear, cut out of the will, labelled, religious, etc.), could he be called a CDer?
Many responsed to "fantasize about being with a man while en femme" threads by saying "if you fantasize about sex with a man, you're gay", even if you never did.
Same thing, right? If you have the desire to CD, you're a CDer, even if you never did.
I used to chat a lot in AOL crossdresser chatrooms 10+ years ago. There are all kinds: CDers, admirers, straight, gay, bi, some looking for a hookup, some just wanting to get aroused....etc etc. I'm convinced that there are guys out there who never crossdressed but who have that "innate desire".
What do you think? Or is all of this semantics?