I've been dressing regularly for a little over a year now. I have read how you need to come out to your SO, and of course that makes sense. I also know its much harder to do with much higher possible consequences than can be easy to handle. My wife and I just got back from a Cruise with friends, and of course Christmas. I didn't want to come out around either of those where it may put a damper on them. I had planned to do so in January once things had settled.
I had a minor surgery procedure last Friday, and have been a little careless with a couple things since. My wife found them and confronted me last night. It was not pretty, and ended up with her leaving for the night. I'm hoping she will be back tonight, and it is hopeful that she will. My kids (24 and 20) are home for the holidays (daughter still lives with us, in college) They had "gone out" so we could talke and they would be talking to me when they got home late last night. Things went very well with my kids. Hugs were exchanged, questions were asked, and they both said I was their Dad and they would always love me. They would be there for me whatever direction things went.
I'm praying things will work out with my wife, and will be giving her links to here and other information pages. I understand her anger, confusion and shock. I had an online indescression a number of years back, and she is equating that with this. And as far as the deception, it is similar. I expressed, that I always have, and do love her. I don't want to do SRS, I'm not gay, but I don't really know where I will end up. ironically, we hadn't been married long when she brought up that I should have been the girl in the relationship and she the guy.
More to come I'm sure.