The only secret I've ever kept from my spouse is now out in the open. She found out through a series of text messages from a cd friend of mine and thought I was having an affair. At that moment, the hardest conversation I've ever had took place. I began to come forward and tell her about my dressing and how it all began. She was relieved that it wasn't another woman. She forgives me but she said we're gonna have to work on rebuilding trust because I've know all this time and didn't share these intimate details with her. I'm still trying to figure out some things but I assured her that I don't want to be a woman, I don't want to be with another woman, and that I simply enjoy wearing women's clothes. We had another talk last night and although it's hard for her to wrap her brain around why her husband wants to wear women's clothes, at least she is listening to me and wants to truly work through this. I feel like a ton has been removed from my shoulders, mind, and heart. The question I have is how many of you have ever met with a therapist and does it help? That's one of the things I'm considering. Any help from those who have been in similar situations would be great.