Results 1 to 16 of 16

Thread: Getting older

  1. #1
    New Member ♡AmberLynn♡'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2014
    Location
    Fern Creek Lou. KY
    Posts
    2

    Question Getting older

    Would life be better now if I had came out when I was young and fair skinned?

  2. #2
    New Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    8
    a hard question to answer , if a small word but big unknown

  3. #3
    Adventuress Kate Simmons's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    The Poconos PA
    Posts
    18,971
    We can speculate but who we are now is the most important thing.
    Second star to the right and straight on till morning

  4. #4
    Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Location
    NH
    Posts
    156
    40 years of hiding and denial, makes me want to cry. Chin up new day.
    Love KristyE

  5. #5
    A lady in the making..... Erica Marie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Location
    wisconsin
    Posts
    1,949
    Its a tough question. I think alot of us feel it would have been better. But most of us are in out 40-60's. Back then we did not have the resources we do now, and I dont think people were as open minded as they are now. So we struggle wondering, yet we probably would have struggled just as much trying to fit in. Catch 22 I guess.
    Erica

  6. #6
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    A bit south of the 49th!
    Posts
    23,676
    It's dangerous to tamper with the past. If it were possible to do so, imagine all of the other life events which might be disrupted by that one change.
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

    Eleanor Roosevelt

  7. #7
    Gone to live my life
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    6,552
    Good question . . . my first true CD (complete en femme) was when I as smallish 18 year old and my girlfriend at the time was shall we say "experimental in all things fun". She convinced me to dress up and being young (did not have to shave) I made a pretty girl. Did it once and never did again until recently (31 years later). When I looked in the mirror expecting to see that pretty young girl, the reflection I got back was an old guy in make-up. Since looking in the mirror a few months ago, I have gotten better at make-up but alas . . . still an old guy in make-up. Would coming out 31 years ago made me a prettier gal today . . . not likely. Sure I wonder about all the fun I might have missed out on as a girl in the world at such a young age but then again I also think about all the fun I would have missed out on being a boy in the world.

    We are a collection of our life experiences the vision (our looks) are superficial. I still had fun as a boy for 31 years as I probably would have had fun as a girl. However, in the end I am still me and when I look in the mirror I see me (an old guy in make-up) but that is okay as that is me.

    Hugs

    Isha

  8. #8
    Silver Member Tina B.'s Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    North Coast of California
    Posts
    4,230
    Coming out when I was young would not have made life better, it would have made it worse. Back when I was young, we where considered sick, and the cure was electric shock treatment, and negative reinforcement, none of which sounds like fun.
    It really wasn't all that long ago, that the medical profession decided we weren't sick after all, or at least that was what they said when they found out they couldn't cure us.
    Magic is the art of changing consciousness at will.

  9. #9
    Member TxCassie's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    The Lone Star State
    Posts
    294
    Need not fret about the things of "Would Haves", "Could Haves". If anything, use those thoughts to be the best today and tomorrow. Those feelings lend to the thought, you missed something. You have not. You've lived your life and because you lived your life, you are here to this point now... Take It! For beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when beauty comes from within, at any age, the eye will behold the elegance of beauty.

    Of course, when you're over 50 like me, I admit, a bit more concealer is needed and the spanks don't hurt either! LOL

    Honey, Be Strong, Be Beautiful, and most of Be Happy Today, don't wait for tomorrow.

    Cassie

  10. #10
    Silver Member Barbara Dugan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Houston
    Posts
    2,428
    Yes getting old is inevitable I am starting to feel the effect at 45...I guess the only thing left to do is enjoy life the best we can

  11. #11
    Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2013
    Location
    NW Ohio
    Posts
    416
    I'd bet that most GGs look around and see all of the youthful girls and long for those days, too. I'm not saying that they aren't or can't be happy where they are now in life. I'm just saying that most people, male or female, at some point in time, or at a lot of points in time, wish they were their same youthful, 20-something selves. You know, though, the one thing that an older person can honestly say is that they know what it feels like to be a youth. A youth cannot say what it feels like to be an older person. Therein lies the wisdom. Too much time spent on looking back is time lost looking forward.

  12. #12
    Exploring NEPA now Cheryl T's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Location
    Northeast Pa near NJ and NY
    Posts
    10,444
    Better? Who knows...but most likely different.
    I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !

  13. #13
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    Western Washington
    Posts
    14,303
    If I had come out as a cross dresser when I was young and fair skinned would life now be better? I guess if I showed up for my pre-induction physical for the draft in a dress and heels I would not have been drafted, gone to Nam, humped the boonies, ended up with war injuries and the effects of toxic poisoning. Actually, I think being in the closet lead to a more fruitful and productive life, even with my tour in Nam. Society was not embracing cross dressers back then, or now! Frankly, society is more accepting of gays and lesbians than cross dressers.

    For those of you who are young. Take a trip to the mall or commercial and financial center of your city and observe the men and women. Look in the mirror. There are too many sloppy overweight men and women out there who are going to look like crap at my age. Your genetics may play at part of who you become, but, you do not have to contribute to it. There are many decent looking men and women who are "aged, older, mature, whatever" out there. Don't wallow in the past, control your future. Darn, time to watch the playoffs.

  14. #14
    Banned Read only
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Memphis, TN
    Posts
    442
    Yep, no doubt about it. Back when I was a kid, if I had come out as a crossdresser, life would have been better. My dad would have disowned me, my mom would have put me in an insane asylum and my friends would have laughed and called me queer.

  15. #15
    New Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Posts
    11
    I think it's different for everybody. Where I'm from, everybody around me is very accepting of who I am. But I have friends whose parents may not have been as supportive.

    But we all had our reasons for coming out/not coming out when we did. Whenever you felt comfortable coming out was right for you

  16. #16
    Platinum Member Beverley Sims's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Location
    Lowestoft UK. Beverley was here.
    Posts
    30,955
    Maybe, but you would have needed the breaks to do it.
    Prejudices were pretty thick years ago.
    Remember blacks used to have to ride in the back of the bus.
    I can hold conversations with those same people in the back of the bus these days.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State