So I need really good advice and I will also be doing a search through the forum as there may be topics already posted. But, based on my situation in my marriage not doing so well (more then likely divorce is around the corner since she found a women's tshirt and some panties). She wants to know what's the deal about what she found in our room. How should I approach this and what should I say to try and turn things around? As much as I enjoy CDing, wanting to present myself en femme, and to transition. If I choose my marriage, I will have give up that part of myself. Has anyone been in this situation or torn between to worlds? What was the outcome and how did you Handel it?