how many people know you are a crossdresser?

[Carla_68]

The first people to find out were the locals in my very supportive LGBT bar (including 3 friends i hadn't seen for a while who were there for their own different reasons)

I let my best friend know when sat in the middle of a heavy metal festival by putting a very black dress on and saying hi to him and 3 other friends we were camping with

Let the wife know (which still hasn't gone down well 2 years later)

last 4 months I seem to have ramped up the number of people mainly my female friends first as they were cottoning on and I wanted someone to go out with this idea did end up with me being in a nightclub on New Years Eve with about 500 people

I was a bit naughty as I like to get them to meet me rather than be told about me it works fairly well but can take a few attempts (which you blame on them for not finding out sooner)

I did have 3 friends find out on my Birthday we decided it would be a good idea to go to a local wine bar (in our school disco uniforms(yes we had been preloading)) I ordered the drinks and as I was turning to pass back to my friend the 3 of them were stood there chatting to her

I'd say about 25 of my friends know now and have all been really supportive

I would classify them as my level 1's friends who would be supportive similar to strangers who have met me as I am

I haven't approached any level 2's on the subject, those that I don't see so much for socialising or that have strong opinions on various subjects and they could go either way

And I don't want to let level 3's find out, family members, work colleagues (male especially), religious moralistic types, school dads quiz team, camra guys, metal heads etc

[jennloves55]

However many members there are here.

[Kate Simmons]

Not counting CDers, probably about a dozen. Counting other CDers, more like over 1000. The reaction of the dozen ranged from "No way" to "Really Dude? " to "Cool!"

[Katey888]

Zero - unless you include my cat - oh, and obviously all you ladies here
In some ways I wish it was more - in other ways... I'm not sure...
Closet Katey x

[gina bennett]

For me it's a zero, I'm not sure if I want to reveal it to friends or family.

[Bima]

What I am aware about, only one person knows for sure. I had set up a non-photo profile on Match.com as an occasional CDer. Got a couple of responses and went on a date with one woman who had nothing against it and thought I should CD more often :-). However, we were not a match in most other aspects. So I never saw her again.

I've done shopping irl, so the sales assistants could possibly guess, but they don't know for sure.

/Bima

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

Counting family and friends......three people, a friend of mine from my old job, my wife, and another friend of mine that moved to Florida. Though I think some family members suspect that there is something up with me. I try not to hide it to hard after all.

[Princess29]

I guess to answer my own question, its 12 for me in the non cd/tg world and nobody has had a problem with it (at least that they have told me)

[tylia]

My wife and everyone here for sure....maybe my neighbour across the back yard. She saw Tylia leave the house one day and she did a double take.

[CarlaWestin]

My wife, her therapist, a psychiatrist from many years ago, maybe my daughter, two divorce attorneys, the tweener (girlfriend between marriages), the ex and whoever she blabbed to.

[kimdl93]

Come to think of it, I'm not sure. My ex outed me to an indeterminate number of family, friends, coworkers and neighbors during our breakup. I'm not sure how many took it as spitefulness, but of close family members it simply confirms what several already suspected. Oddly, I didn't lose any friends or become estranged from any family members as a result.

Today I'm more open about my CDing, and am out to my wife, step daughter, several neighbors, several of my best friends and a few business associates.

[audreyinalbany]

my wife. Brother and sister. A husband and wife who we are good friends with. I think that's it.

[Dianne S]

My wife, my mother, a family counsellor and a friend of my wife's. So 4.

[Lexi Moralas]

Just 1 but I wish it was 0

[Hellen]

Only my wife.

[Dianne S]

Addendum: I forgot to answer the "What was the reaction" part:

My wife: When I told her, surprise then acceptance. Acceptance has been waning over the years as other problems in our marriage have cropped up. She resents the pleasure I get from CDing.

My mother: Surprise and a bit of shock. She's accepting but does not like to talk/think about it and gets embarrassed or nervous if I bring it up.

The family counsellor: Tried very very hard to conceal her reaction, but was clearly surprised. Does not think it's a problem.

My wife's friend: I haven't seen her since my wife told her. I think she was a bit freaked out and will likely feel uncomfortable around me.

[Alice Torn]

I guess about 14 people. Two have died. No family. I better leave Dodge when any of them find out, because an already troubled nightmare would have gasoline spilled on it, if they find out, or see heel marks in the linoleum, and find out. Only a few people have been real accepting. Most have been not too pleased, or downright told me to stop, because it is wrong. I am very hesitant to tell , unless i sense they are live and let live people.

[Vicky Peters]

Just my wife.

[steeve]

my SO,all my work colleagues (their all female), postman,and a few of my neighbours . My SO is fully accepting,my work colleagues also, I enjoy the meal breaks at work when we discuss female issues and other things, the postman I dont care lol ,neighbours same .

[Suzanne F]

My wife, mother and sister as far as family. My wife is supportive but we struggle with the enormity of me being transgendered. My mother and sister were surprised but loving. I am out to a lot of my close friends probably around a dozen. Everyone has been great about it except my former minister and his wife. They love me but it bothers them and is against their principles. My Friday night 12 step group only knows me as Suzanne which is great. Everyone there has been very loving. Finally, I recently went to a Saturday 12 step meeting in the city as Suzanne. There were at least 100 people at that meeting. Of course I know many ladies from here and have attended River City Gems events.
Suzanne

[NicoleScott]

Three women, friends, nothing romantic, none of whom I am in contact with any longer (we all scattered as we took jobs). My wife, she accepts. No men.

[Tina_gm]

That I am aware of, 4. Two therapists, my wife and one friend of hers.

[Jordan]

Only 2 that I have told but I think a lot more know

[S. Lisa Smith]

About 20 or so all women except for one of my sons. Two of the women finally got tired of the pink fog and have distanced themselves, but the rest it's surprised, but made no difference.

[Vanessa5]

My wife and you ladies. That is all I am comforatable with so far.