On this forum and others, I've seen CD's get upset when CD is described as a "fetish" or a "paraphilia". OK, here's my take on this:
The incidence of "fetish" behavior in the general population is close to 100%. In the final analysis, a "fetish" is anything which 1) causes sexual arousal and 2) Does not lead directly to the main reason sexual contact exists, which is reproduction (no, I didn't say is the ONLY reason for sex, but sex does facilitate the continuance of the human species).
You're a man who's turned on by a women with big boobs? That's a fetish.
You like your girlfriend to wear a garter belt and high heels to bed? That's a fetish too.
You're a woman who likes men with beards? Fetish.
You're a man who's aroused by other men's physiques or a woman who likes women's bodies? Thats a fetish too--not that there's anything wrong with that.
There are fetishes that are harmful, pedophilia and non-consentual forced sexual fantasies (that are acted upon) to name just two. But that certainly doesn't mean all fetishes are bad or disgusting.
Most people feel like this: "If I like something out of the ordinary sexually, it's a preference. If you like something out of the ordinary and I can't understand the attraction you have for it, it's a fetish.
I'm talking about CDing here. I realized that transsexuality is a totally different set of circumstances.
What about autogynephilia?
Again, this exists in roughly 100 percent of the female population. Most people who express a feminine side like to fantasize themselves as being a super-hot attractive woman. it's the reason you see nothing but airbrushed photos of physically perfect, provocatively dressed women on the cover of women's magazines. So why shouldn't MTF CD's have some of the same feelings and desires?
"Fetish" and "Paraphilia" are terms used by transphobic people to try and shame those of us who enjoy crossing gender lines occasionally. Don't let these bigots shame you. Be who you are, and realize that your gender/sexual preference is no better or worse than those felt and practices by the vast majority of fellow human beings.