I've been crossdressing for two years now. I don't pass.
Last night I was dressed and went into the Hilton Union Square in San Francisco to use the ladies room. On a Saturday night, it gets crowded between the guests and the restaurant. On my way to the ladies room, a security guard stopped me and asked for my name and where I was going. I said Alison and I'm going to the ladies room. She asked if I had everything taken care of down there. I wish I had come up with something witty, but I was in shock and just said I don't understand. She said a man used the ladies room before and she received a complaint. I said California law allows me to use the ladies room, and she said she had a complaint. I took her name and told her it's discrimination, and I wish her luck finding a new job.
She offered to get the security head, but since I'm not out, I'm already treading thin water, and just decided to leave. This morning, I left a message for their general manager. I'll let you know if I hear back.
As I mentioned, I'm not out, so there really isn't much I can do, besides share my story, as I don't want to attract attention.
My only regret was not saying, "If a bigot complained about blacks in the lobby, would you ask them to leave?" (The security guard was black, so it would likely strike a chord).
However, I do feel proud that I reached a milestone in my crossdressing adventures. For the first time, I was the victim of discrimination.
I also created a Twitter account with my fem email address and posted this: https://twitter.com/LewisLadyalison