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    Silver Member Rhonda Jean's Avatar
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    So... Just how straight of a guy are you??

    This is a bit of an introspective, seeing as how I've recently discovered that I may have been playing for the wrong team my whole life. Or not.

    A while back I read about a study done on homophobic and non-homophobic men that analyzed what kind of porn turned them on. I'm not going to site it here. Just Google it. Basically they put a strain gauge on their penis and showed them porn; Hetero, gay, lesbian, and recorded their erectile reactions. Turns out the homophobes were turned on by gay porn! Who'd a thunk it!

    Ya' know, you really can't help what turns you on, and if someone straps a strain gauge on your penis, you can't hide it. Kind of a penile lie detector.

    Now the introspection... I was exposed to zero porn as a teenager. As a young adult I'd sometimes visit the book store and step through the door that said "No one under 21". My selections there were pretty telling. I really never got anything out of typical straight porn. I don't think I ever bought a Playboy. I'd look at them, but none of them ever did enough for me to spend money on them. The gay porn magazines were even worse. I didn't get that at all. I'd always go straight for the Penthouse Letters or Variations. There was always something with a tranny theme in those. That's what I spent my money on. Sometimes I'd find a Tapestry (a tranny mag.) or some obscure publication that would have a picture of a crossdresser or Tgirl of some sort. Those were like gold!

    Now, porn of all kinds is a click away. For me, I don't know that I've ever clicked on a straight porn category. I suspect that an analysis of my frequency of clicks on various categories would be pretty psychologically revealing.

    I was at one time a straight, married, father. I loudly claimed that I was straight, totally committed to my wife and children, would always be this way and never that way. You know the drill.

    But, what was I hiding? What if someone put a strain gauge on my penis and showed me various categories of porn? Was I as straight as I claimed? In the most important way, if I wasn't acting on it, I'm not sure it made much difference. I can see that it could be argued that it did, in a less-than-obvious way.

    I'm sure I claimed somewhere along the way that it was just clothes. Hummm. It turned me on to see other "guys" dressed in girl's clothes. Is it still about the clothes then?

    Those homophobes in the study group would never admit to being turned on by gay porn. They couldn't control or deny what turned them on, though. How about you? Behind that "over 21" door or alone with your computer... Just how straight a boy are ya?

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    not so straight here......LOL......Bi....yes !!!!!

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    When I see an amazing looking girl, I always hope she has that little something extra. I wonder what the penile lie detector has to say about that ?
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    I've questioned myself over that endlessly as a teenager. Yep, used porn as a test, and the outcome: attracted to many women, some trans women, and a few effeminate men.

    Lately I've moved to the attitude that "gay, straight, meh, they're just two labels. If you meet a person that you gel with, that's what matters."

    IMHO, at some point the 'mechanics' of how you have sex are less important than the quality of the relationship. But I do understand why for some folks it absolutely must be a certain 'set of equipment'.
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    Prefer women, also very bi, but not to the genetic male form. I am very attracted to other cds and transgirls.
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    I only look straight...or I don't

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    In my younger years, my fear, deep and abiding, was that because I was a CDr I might be gay...I bought into the stereotype. I even had the obligatory bi experience in college, and because of that I've always characterized myself as bi. But when it comes down to it, I'm really not interested in the male anatomy, my own or other males. Or maybe I'm just getting old!
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    Visited a gay club, men in the tub, men in the sauna, men on love swing, I had a cup of tea, biscuits and good chats with some of them and invited to participate which I kindly declined - a zero on the stain gauge.
    Yes I was wearing a slinky nighty while there (early days of CDing - to find out if I was gay or not)

    But funny thing, add an attractive female anywhere in the mix and I probably would have been up for play on both sides.
    Maybe one day I'll meet such a group?
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    I guess I would say Bi curious. Haven't done it but curious about trying. But who know if I will ever act as I love woman way to much.

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    I have a big qualifier...as technically I can claim the same as that movie..."48 year old virgin"...
    That being said I have been a moderate porn connoseuur....
    And my claim results-wise is BI... To a degree. I figure maybe a 70/30 attraction to F/M... But that's based on porn.
    As it is, right now it comes down more to the attraction or romantic side anymore for me.
    I can enjoy female porn but if there's a good story and loving side to male porn then I can get going just as strongly with that. the plumbing just isn't mattering as much to me anymore.

    Now for the technical/logic side on the testing... as far as the strain gague thing...
    I wonder how this was done. Mainly because I can see varying "stresses" depending on when it was done. I mean, longer into porn sessions there's more of a buildup. So what of fem porn was shown, and then as a finisher male porn was shown. You've already built up an amount, then the further porn somewhat 'adds' onto that for a stronger response.
    As well, even if there was breaks,etc.. There's still a bit of mechanical...er..stretching that has occurred. Making subsequent sessions potentially more potent as far as solidness, how much blood flowed in, etc. Thats a common thing thought of for various...enlarging excersizes.
    So I wonder how much was considered with these factors.
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    On my first session, one of the (less reputable) therapists told me I was gay, but that was nothing to be ashamed of.

    I was shaken. As a scientist, I conducted an experiment. I was in the men's locker room every other day, so I took a peek every once in a while to see if there was an attraction. Not a bit.

    I would have found another therapist sooner, but she always encouraged me to come to the session dressed. As if i really needed my arm twisted.
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    Now for the technical/logic side on the testing... as far as the strain gague thing...
    I wonder how this was done. Mainly because I can see varying "stresses" depending on when it was done. I mean, longer into porn sessions there's more of a buildup. So what of fem porn was shown, and then as a finisher male porn was shown. You've already built up an amount, then the further porn somewhat 'adds' onto that for a stronger response.
    As well, even if there was breaks,etc.. There's still a bit of mechanical...er..stretching that has occurred. Making subsequent sessions potentially more potent as far as solidness, how much blood flowed in, etc. Thats a common thing thought of for various...enlarging excersizes.
    So I wonder how much was considered with these factors.[/QUOTE]

    You're thinking way too hard about this, Kacey!

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    I'm reminded of a line from an episode of Will and Grace, the one where Jack refers to gay porn as the ultimate heterosexual aphrodisiac.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhonda Jean View Post
    You're thinking way too hard about this, Kacey!
    Yeah I know. It's what I do best I guess. (overanalyze)
    I just wonder the viability of the physical response of this as a qualified indicator due to many factors.
    And even if they showed one side of porn and was having the person come back later to isolate this physical change...
    there should be the mental side where the person coming back would know already they're about to be shown "the other version" and that mental aspect may inhibit, (or enhance in a way for others ) the response.

    Oh well..I'll shut up now. (not good to try to think logically after a few margaritas...(just got back from a bar )
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    I am bi. I've known since my teenage years but only recently found I like cding. If it wasn't for my wife I'd be dressed 95℅ of the time. And I'm attracted to other CDs and trans girls very strongly, more then women. So its been a long journey finding myself, but I'm happy now more then ever

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    Never a thought about bi or gay when I was young and CD'ing. I must say there is blurring of the lines as I get older but I think that is mostly fantasy. In reality, I would not act on this today. My lady knows and we have great fun agreeing the lines are drawn, us two only, at least for now. The other day she said (sigh) who knows what I will do in the future, I am too spontaneous.

    Lord help me. I love the way we are as just us two...it is beautiful..

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    Not into porn of any kind and yes I have looked at all kinds of magazines with porn growing up as a kid.None did anything for me.
    My first bi encounter was around 12-13 years old and I can't say I hated it. Had another encounter at 17 and it was very nice.
    These days I find myself checking guys out when they are more feminine looking.
    Last summer I dated a gay guy for a few months both in girl mode and guy mode.Very handsome and quite a nice guy but it didn't work out.I wasn't "gay enough" for him.
    I love women too so call me bi.

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    Rhonda, are you asking this to make yourself feel better about admitting you are bi or gay? It doesn't matter what others are only what you are. I'm just a straight cross dresser (a strain gauge would prove that) but it doesn't matter to you. Whether you are alone in your feelings or on a large team, it matters not.

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    What I do know:
    I am attracted to the feminine form. Whether that be GG, Trans, CD....
    I am, however, not attracted to the male equipment.

    What I'm not sure on, is if I'd enjoy it anyway. When I am dressed, I become curious. Still, the equipment is a turn off, but I begin to fantasize on being a woman with a guy.... I have... self experimented, but so far have found nothing in that regard that does anything for me.

    I think, personally, though, that I'm still caught in a kind of "between levels" CD'ing. I know I'm the type that likes fully dressing and, if I weren't so paranoid about it, would like to go out into public as such. However, I often find myself wondering if I want to go that extra distance and be Trans. But there I catch into the crux of the issue, I think. I don't want to be strictly one or other... I want to be both, at will.

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    Very insightful JennyMarie... This struck a bullseye for me... Although some may not care, perhaps others do

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    Bi from childhood, married for 35 years to a woman ( no cheating ) but if this married thing doesn't work out what the hell...
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    Nothing really interests me except an attractive woman.
    I have seen muscle men as pinups and it actually turns me off.
    I will interact with gay people socially and share their jokes and can see the funny side.
    I also abhor sex jokes about women. Some seem insulting to me.
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    Beverley - for me you are right on the money!
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    Dressed or drab I am gay.
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    Interesting topic Rhonda.
    My "normal" life tells me I am hetero but my fantasies are full of being with other cds and men.
    I often wonder how I would react if ever presented with an opportunity to test the waters.

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