Not very. I identify as Translesbian.
More detail would be that I am far more attracted to the feminine, though I am not so hung up on the persons sex.
Not very. I identify as Translesbian.
More detail would be that I am far more attracted to the feminine, though I am not so hung up on the persons sex.
- Natalie
P.S. that's what part of the alphabet would look like if Q and R where eliminated.
-Mitch Headburg
"If you think you think outside the box, you're trapped in one"
- M.C. Paul Barman
For me it's 100% straight. Women are the greatest. Dudes gross me out and that includes lookin at myself in the mirror
For the longest time I wallowed in thinking I was 100% straight.......that changed quite quickly when I had my first meet up with a guy while I was cross dressing and then I realized that I am very much Bisexual and love both men and women. I prefer to top when it comes to guys because it makes me feel powerful and in charge but not in a master/slave type relationship. I'm definitely attracted to women but I also get excited about guys as well especially when I'm playing the lady
I wouldn't know really how to classify my sexuality. I am only with my wife since we've been married, but my years prior were a different story. I do fantasize at times that she is the man and I an the woman.
I've been the recipient of oral from men, full reciprocal with a pre-op TS, and given oral to a man. Out of everything, the TS experience was my favorite.
When I watch porn online, I always gravitate to the ******* porn.
Someone of slightly scientific bent (pardon the pun) had to do this...
This thread is begging for a summary so here it is...
Exclusions/Definitions to data:
- Members who post more than once are only counted once
- Posts that are debates and conversations are excluded
- Those who do not express a definition or waffle are classed as N/A
- Those who self-define as one class but just fantasise about something else are classified per history rather than fantasy
- Those who self-define as straight but clearly have active other sexual relations have been categorised as Bi-
- I've put Bi and Pan together as I struggle to make a clear distinction
- Members who express a clear uncertainty in that they may go in more than one direction (if that makes sense) have been classified as Bi-curious
If anyone disagrees with any categories I'm happy to review the definitions and the base data for a fee of $500 - PayPal accepted...
And the results are:
HowStraight404.JPG
Enjoy!
Katey x
"Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
I am 100% totally Bi no doubt in my mind
Mistybtm
Used to consider myself bi-curious, I'm bi. No doubt
Who I am is not what I wear, it just makes me look and feel better.
i'm not bi-ing it!
Nice job Katey. My hypothesis is that straight cross dressers (hetero only) are more likely to refrain from comment than the bi/maybe group. I'm a big believer that the vocal minority seems to rule. I responded, more than once, I am sure, due to pure frustration. I can;t abide by the nonsense comments along the lines of, "...I'm straight except when I'm dressed..." There is no such thing as "straight except for..." Just kills me.Originally Posted by Katey888
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And the results are:
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true there is no bi ONLY WHEN DRESSED
because in that case they BECOME the woman!
it all fits!
still straight!
(eyah!)
Yes, I also had trouble understanding that, but I rarely challenge anyone about it unless they say something really stupid. I would have to believe that dressing becomes an enabler or a gateway to other behavorial possibilities for some. Once you break down that initial gender barrier, other things can happen.
I agree with Sheri. I have often wondered how I might react to meeting another cd fully dressed or a man interested in me dressed as a woman.
Agreed Jennifer! I replied to this thread once, months ago, but quickly got to the point where I'd simply delete the posts as they appeared in my Inbox, unless it was a poster who's name I recognized such as yourself or Katey for instance, precisely because of those idiotic "I'm 100% straight except for when it's another guy in a skirt" type posts!
Black is ALWAYS the, "New Black!"
"I really hate it when people accuse me of wearing Womens clothes... these aren't Womens clothes... I f*****g bought them!!!" Eddie Izzard.
I'm straight except when I'm doing yoga, then I'm kind of crooked. {sorry, couldn't resist a bit of levity}
Katey, nice chart. Is that based entirely on responses to this thread?
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The data is drawn from this thread Melanie - up to post #404 (the one before the chart). I have collated members' comments as closely as possible to the categories detailed in the post with the chart. I don't think any conclusions as such can be drawn from this, as it is a self-selected group who have responded. I'm not sure there's any credence in the assertion that hetero members are less likely to respond, however - I'd suggest that there isn't any strong bias for responding based on sexuality. All I think you can say about the relatively small sample size is:
- The spilt between straight or non-straight is about even
- There are a significant number of responses (for this sample size) that suggest some uncertainty regarding sexuality including a desire to explore, although many of these are likely to remain purely fantasy
- Gays are in a definite minority here (I think we guessed that...)
Interesting... possibly representative, but by no means definitive... however, in the absence of any other more compelling data...
Katey x
"Put some lipstick on - Perfume your neck and slip your high heels on
Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
I totally agree. This is my first comment on this thread as I have had large troubles in even reading it without loosing my fool mind! The whole "straight except for..." thing just kills me!
Oh and for the record, I am 100% hetero. I am not into guys in any way, regardless of how they or I am dressed. Now I do have a bi friend who has let me know how into me he is but he feels bad about it as he knows I am straight and he does not want to make me uncomfortable. I laughed when he told me that. I let him know that if he is into me, that is fine, but just don't expect that to be returned, like ever!
And Katey, I love your chart!
Katey, thanks for the effort. My thread with the Adultfriendfinder data was not particularly well received I think. I'm very interested in knowing who we are as a group and the "official" statistics available seem inadequate. Regarding the AFF data how it may or may not be representative, I also compared men who are only interested in women to men who are interested in more than just women and found an interesting percentage that parallels the general population - between 5 and 10 percent of AFF men are bi or gay.
So like most of the people on this thread I thought that my crossdressing is something that goes along with being gay and always wondered if i was growing up.
I still think i cant answer that but if i had t label myself i would say i am Bi. Why? Because in the porn category i always search and watch gay porn. Straight porn get me excited as well but if i was going to search for something i would most likely watch gay porn. Not sure why but I just do. The thing wiht any pron gay or straight is that it is a fantasy and i think that the fantasy of it is what is attractive to me.
But here is the thing. I find the form of a women to be the most beautiful thing there is. Men in person just turn me off. Girls are pretty and we do our best to be as pretty as them(and sometimes are more pretty then GGs). The best sex i have ever had is with women and i think that makes me more straight then not.
I am married now and i promised my wife i would never stray from our marriage bed and i am more then happy with that as she does everything for me and takes cares of all my desires so i guess i will never really find out if guys really do it for me at all.
Wow, Rhonda...what kind of nerve did you touch here?
17 pages and still going. Lol
So here is something to think about. Why does this matter?
I guess there is affirmation in learning that ones preferences are shared by others. Sure. I get that.
Sexuality is a touchy subject, and many people experience guilt related to fantasies or actual experiences outside the strict hetero world, whether they have gender issues or not, right? And, if guilt/shame/insecurity etc are in any way present in a person over ambiguous or non straight sexual impulses, then affirmation that they are not alone in this is helpful. I get that.
But, gender identity and sexual preferences are not the same and are only loosely connected....or, at least, that is the take I have gotten from most all of what I have read, and I believe it.
While I find the "I'm straight except..." responses amusing, I am equally amused by all the strident expressions of pure heterosexuality.
I often wonder, to quote my buddy Will, if "the lady doth protest too much" tee hee
No, not pointing fingers at anyone. I do believe there are many cds who absolutely are absolutely straight sexually.
But there is also a whole lot of self delusion, I am guessing, going on among some.
And I find that amusing.
In a world where it is now widely considered acceptable for people to be gay, or lesbian or bi, while being TG to one degree or another is still a status struggling to gain acceptance and escape prejudice, scorn and derision, how can someone be less nervous about admitting they crossdress than about admitting they might have a same sex attraction?
For that matter, is it same sex?
We make a big deal about addressing each other with gender appropriate pronouns, obviously addressing the feminine identity. So if the identity is female and the sexual relation is to a male, then is that truly "gay"?
People...respectfully...what does it matter?
I find the only time it is important to answer this question is when faced with another person hitting on me. Other than that?
Life is short and there are many things to worry about, but defining, labeling, boxing myself...there are bigger issues. Just have a good time, girls. Look for the love.
And don't forget to dance.
Lol
Love to you all, straight, bi, gay and confused.
Sammie
Every fear that held me back, when faced, has proven to be hollow.
Courage is not the lack of fear, but the willingness to ignore it.
It's your life. Make it count.
Sammie,
That was a very well written and thought out response. Nicely done and very good point for sure!
I once was a guy, so I guess I can reply here. Estrogen has destroyed my sex drive (good riddance!) along with my sexual preferences -- which were straight. Although I find myself emotionally attracted to anyone who is attracted to me I have a preference for other trans-women. So boys and girls, here's my question. Does that make me a lesbian, gay or a galesbian? I'm not confused, but some people have a hard time labeling me (poor things). I love who I love, and life should be as simple as that.
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Haha...yes, Cheryl, I get that totally...you and I have a lot in common, girl. :-)
Every fear that held me back, when faced, has proven to be hollow.
Courage is not the lack of fear, but the willingness to ignore it.
It's your life. Make it count.
Years ago we had polls and I can remember at least one where it was 40% straight, 40% bi and 10% gay so this is reinforcing that. The numbers may skew a bit as always because of the site and who is willing to answer but I think it is a good "cross" section. Great chart
- The split between straight or non-straight is about even
The earth is the mother of all people and all people should have equal rights upon it.
Chief Joseph
Nez Perce
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
Add on when your parents tell you you must be gay if you crossdress. Takes a while to find your way.
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