I've never been homophobic. I have just recently started thinking about my femme self. Sorry this got away from me. Thanks for the three Rhonda Jean.
I've never been homophobic. I have just recently started thinking about my femme self. Sorry this got away from me. Thanks for the three Rhonda Jean.
Accepted myself as bi before I discovered how much I love being fem. Now I feel more gay than anything else but other CDs are what mostly attract me. And, personally, I am always skeptical about the large number of CDs who say they are straight but I love you all anyway.
Skeptical you may have to be Melanie. Because strictly hetero is what I am. Although in retrospect, threads like this and commentary like that are why I was worried about my SO coming here.
I think the strain gauge would indicate hetero all the way. Two reasons, never look at gay porn and not homophobic. Interesting post! Also I am amazed and extremely happy that women find males attractive because I can't figure out why?
Interesting thread (sometimes it's nice that they develop through the night while I'm getting my beauty sleep..).
I've questioned this of myself, probably more since discussing things about myself on this forum but... nope. Men of any shape, form or vestment do nothing for me. In fairness, 'classic' porn of the sort I came across as a teenager also didn't do very much. As it turned out, I had another type of... let's call it 'fetish' - not relevant for discussion here - but that doesn't involve anything gay. I'll occasionally come across some gay fetish stuff on the web accidentally and it just makes me cringe. No offence to anyone - I'm completely tolerant of lifestyles, sexual choices, etc. but it's clearly something that switches me off completely. It's always women - even the sexy girls I chat with here (and I can be a flirt... I know... but isn't that just girly fun..?) I know that I can appreciate what goes into how they look, but that's it.
I suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity...
Katey x
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Rinse and curl your hair - Loosen your hips, and get a dress to wear" Stefani Germanotta
Not to make me feel better, just to understand better. It seems I should have at least had some idea before now that I had these tendencies lurking within me. At this point I'm looking back thinking, "what about this", and "what about that." I think there's something telling about the porn. Mostly the fact that I never seemed to get as much out of typical straight porn as other males. Notice I said that I wasn't into gay porn, either.Originally Posted by Jenniferathome
The crux of the matter, to me, is that when I stated on this board, to my wife, to anyone I happened to make some statement about my sexual orientation to that I was absolutely straight... Was I really? And I wondered if this was a common tranny thing. You think you're straight, you live your life as straight, but behind the curtain is there some seed of something lurking?
As far as whether or not it matters whether I'm alone or on a large team, for the most part I agree with you. I think most of us who've spent a lifetime wearing women's clothes are quite used to being alone to one degree or another. Where it matters to me is that I've arrived at kind of a sexual/relationship no man's land. That's what matters.
Here's another thing. There was not another person on the planet who knew I crossdressed who ever believed I was completely straight. I believed it. I believed the whole "crossdressing has nothing to do with sexual orientation" thing. I was living it, and I believed it. Nobody else did. And they were right. Outside of this community, nobody believes that. But I wasn't lying. I was just a connect-the-dots picture. For all my life the dots had been connected to show me as I'd been for my whole life. Erase a line here and there and reconnect those same lines in a different way and you get what I am today.
My feelings for other people have nothing to do with plumbing. I can love another person regardless of that. I don't classify myself really. Simple as that.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
As strange as it may seem I'm disgustingly straight! I frequent gay clubs when dressed, value my gay friends, and no longer have any fear of my own sexuality not measuring up. It's women's anatomy that puts stress on my strain guage. You know, T&A, hourglass figures, long legs in heels, soft skin, and gentle caresses. With that said, I must admit to a certain fascination when dressed with an erection pointed in my direction!
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Its all theater of the mind, which is not entirely bad, until this test. Having taken the test, not sure if I got a passing grade. Being with another CD/Tgirl is an amazing adventure in sensuality unequaled with any GG experiences of the past. Not sure if this attraction extends to men, but class is over where other Tgirls are concernedI suppose acid test for all of us closeted types would be meeting another CD... and there's another thread opportunity...
Katey x
Not sure if this qualifies for the 'gay' box but others here have said it is definitely in the homosexual one. But, the boxes and attempts at categorizing our 'orientation' have been examined at length in other threads.
Katey might be on to something with this new thread idea. Go for it girl.
Hugs, Robin
Straight as a guy. Bi as a girl or is that the other straight?
Stephanie Julianna
yes this...kinda. There truly are some great people here with delightful insight... you are one...Your post made me chuckle.
Vanny
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I did get a chuckly out of this question, recalling as a young'un hanging with my buds and talking theoreticals... and I recall declaring, If I was a girl I'd be gay! haha.. I just like girls too much I suppose. but I am also more of the curious, and recall seeing in Playboy about a beautiful gurl and her story and recall thinking to myself, as well as questioning the whole thing, but I declared right then and there to me, I'd marry her too1 Now I am still very attracted to real girls, but also, though I've never met one in person (that I know of), I am indeed attracted to those that bring something extra to under the table. so I would check bi-curious if I had to.. but as for men, being emotionally atracted.. nah, been that, can change my own brake, what do I need one of them for?nothing personal against 'em though..but some of them..now I know whay some women think men are dogs... haha..
A stress test on many men, especially when they get older would show many just don't care (even if they care...nothing happens). Does that mean they are asexual? No mentally they may be aroused but physically no response. A genital response could be from fear too. Has happened before. When we get to the measurement of mental stimulation that would be more accurate. I have seen studies where they take blood pressure, heart rate, measure pupillary response and breathing. Putting the whole study on your genitals would be a weak study. Remember young men get excited at a lot of things that are not even sexual.
I am in this camp, but I am older and sexual stimulation has gone the way of wanting companionship and caring. If intimacy happens, I am all for it.
Interesting, most gay places like that forbid cross dressing. It shows that Australia is far more open than the US. The gay swim club here actually posts on their website "if you wear make up, don't come here"
forbidden fruit
so...if you met a CD and things got intimate and...? The equipment is there, you know it before you met. I have met people like that, not fun when you think you met the right person and they run out after a few minutes.
It's all fun and games until you get your eye poked out
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Not at all straight. I have been with men but only when I present as a female. As for porn I find that I do not like heterosexual porn in part because I don't like the way the male dominates. I enjoy lesbian porn to some degree. I like CD porn a little but don't like it when they are with a hairy masculine guy. I prefer just CDers together. Some gay porn is OK but so much of it is outrageously macho and sinister. That said I don't like most porn because it is rather boring and predictable.
Interesting that the club allowed you to dress like that in public areas. I don't know of any club here in US that would be OK with that. Being dressed in the privacy of your room is OK and leaving the door open a little to attract those who are interested is also acceptable.
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i guess like livory soap, im 99 and 44/100's straight, so yes i am bi. i was a very late bloomer too.
and porn has nothing to do with it as i was never exposed to it and do not care for it at all.
paula
Never been in a relationship, but I would say that I am bi-curious atleast. I find girls attractive, and effeminate men(like J-Rockers). I've come to terms that I like the female look(a lot), but if they're a good person, gender wouldn't matter.
I don't buy the premise that a certain type of erotic scene determines my sexual preference. I am not interested in being intimate with a male. Period. That said, I can appreciate any kind of eroticism. What I wish to participate in is a different matter.
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Lol a strain gauge on your penis...you're thinking way too much about it. Maybe you like fantasizing about penis. The homophobic men that got erections at gay porn are still not "gay"...in my belief. Sexuality is pretty complex...I don't really believe in the way we classify ourselves. And, so publicly! It's a little weird to go around proclaiming what kind of people you will and will not have sex with...even when it's irrelevant to anything going on in the situation...but, we do it anyway.
Either way, fantasy and reality are different worlds. Anal prolapse porn is the new "in" thing right now. People are all like, "Well, if they want to have their insides fall out of them, that's their choice...they're porn stars, I'm sure they know what they're doing."
Imagine being that nurse. With the anal prolapse patient.
Anyway, it gets a tight gauge right now on the penile erectile functioning. People are really into it. I am willing to get though that they may feel differently about it if they experienced it IRL.
So, in other words, don't worry about what your porn habits say about you. I'm not sure it says a whole lot about sexuality, which is already too messy for our neat little categories. Very rarely do people fit into the nice little title that they walk around, yelling out to everyone.
I'm sure that the very loudly proclaiming straight dudes aren't willing to admit they like watching people turn inside out.
Porn is weirder and weirder...if I think too much about what it says about our society, I'll lock my doors and never leave my apartment again.
So, again, I wouldn't think too hard about it.
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sometimes... i feel like i am (beyond) scared straight!
oh GOD!
Valid question. As I said, though, I'm not sure if I might just enjoy it, anyway.
As something to throw out there, I was married to a woman for a short while that (generally) did not like the look of the male equipment. It was "disgusting and ugly" to her. But she certainly enjoyed it. She just generally did not look at it.
But in honesty, if I was to meet a CD and I noticed things were starting to progress down that road, I would immediately make it clear... this is new territory for me. I don't know what, if anything, will come from it. I don't know if this is what I would want. It's still something I am mentally unsure of.
But then again, I'm not going to go out and actively seek out a CD to experiment with, either. It would have to be a chance happening that started progressing that way. I also couldn't tell you with any certainty that if I found myself really liking this person, that I just wouldn't care anyway or would work something out with them to where it all works. *shrug*
I figure I'm a closet podiatrist. Show me a shoe sale advertisement and I'm swooning . . .
I didn't think it up! It was a real study!
Up until recently I led a pretty sheltered life. I was over 50 before I looked at internet porn. Unbelievable.
Not so straight here. Attracted to crossdreesers. Probably bi-curious to boot!
I'll go with this, I am Bi, but I am married, and in the past I've had no luck with men, the drama that can be stirred up is amazing
Jamie Dee
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