Funny you should bring this up. I don't think the discussion of she males quite fits into the trap / genderf**k paradigm, but if my instincts are correct then this thread will quickly get judgmental and then all bets are off anyway.
Yeah, she males. The very word (albeit abridged for filtering reasons) brings up all sorts of ire among the sisterhood, just as any other gender presentation or behavior does if it isn't deemed authentically trans by those who claim to have that authority. Pity. Maybe I'm getting too soft in my old age but I find there's lots more room at my table for the inclusionists than for the exclusionists (um, I guess that makes me exclusionist as well?).
Anyhoo . . . Here's what Bailey Jay has to say about that. Gave me lots to think about. Oh, and for those who are tempted to fire off a stinging rebuttal without looking at this clip - wait. She's talking especially to you.
http://wehappytrans.com/qa/7-questions-bailey-jay/