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    Aspiring Member ShelbyDawn's Avatar
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    Am I getting too comfortable?

    I am home today just hanging out with no real plans.
    When I got up this morning I put on my favorite skirt and a cute top with my bra and forms and all the rest(for me this does not include a wig or makeup. I am pretty much a guy in a dress.).
    So lunch starts to come around and I haven't been shopping in a while so I decide to order delivery so I don't have to change in order to go out.
    The knock on the door comes and I open the door, take the food from the delivery girl and sign the credit card slip. She comments that "You are wearing a dress." I reply, "Yes, Have a nice day."

    What occurred to me after she left was that I pretty much intentionally outed myself to whomever delivered my Orange Chicken. Am I just getting comfortable with who I am or am I subconsciously trying to out myself to people?
    Have any of you been through a "phase" like this?



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    Yes. And be careful unless you are planning to move or get a new job. I lost a good job by being to carefree back in the 70's.

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    I am getting pretty comfortable at home dressing how I like.
    Would I change back to drab, because a delivery person was here, Maybe not. Not sure at this
    point. Would I intentionally out myself, well I am not going looking to be out to the world. but
    not hiding form it either.
    my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress

    "Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"

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    I have outed myself before also. For me it was a nice feeling. After I was outed I sat with the person and talked about my crossdressing. This has happened several times. I guess I was just comfortable.

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    Yes Shelby i have become too comfortable with my girly ways, i have been going to the bathroom and sitting down then i think omg i didnt hesitate, i take the toilet roll as im sitting down, its a good thing but also a a sticky situation at times. However i love it and think yes im finally turning female for real. I want to live like this forever !!!!! Emmaxxx

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    I think what you have is a classic case of FIC. That would be Forum Induced Courage.

    It's well known and well established to be contagious.

    Only YOU can decide if it's a serious affliction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie Julianna View Post
    Yes. And be careful unless you are planning to move or get a new job. I lost a good job by being to carefree back in the 70's.
    That part scares me silly. I am well-known in my community, because I spent eleven years working for the local government, and six years on the board of directors of my local arts council (three of them as President). So I want to echo SJ here with the admonition to be careful.
    "We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are." Anais Nin

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    Shelby, if I lived by myself, I would probably do a lot of that - forgetting what I'm wearing and letting other people see, because it is so comfortable that I wouldn't even think twice about it. However, my wife is adamant about me NOT outing myself that way. So I am always very careful.

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    It looks as if you have become more comfortable with yourself and your dressing. However along with comfort comes complacency which could be why you outed yourself to the delivery girl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie Julianna View Post
    Yes. And be careful unless you are planning to move or get a new job. I lost a good job by being to carefree back in the 70's.
    Looking at your avatar, there is no way you were old enough to have a job in the 70s

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    were you looking for a thrill? since you don't do this too often, that would be my take on it. You "outed" yourself to...? someone you will never see again. That isn't "outing"
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    I have forgotten what I am wearing when I have gone out and had to come back home and change.
    Getting too comfortable, yes.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    I accidentally did this as well. The guy delivering the pizza was shocked when I opened the door and took me a minute of awkward silence to realize. He ended up being really nice though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie Julianna View Post
    Yes. And be careful unless you are planning to move or get a new job. I lost a good job by being to carefree back in the 70's.
    But presumably the law and peoples attitudes have changed a lot since those times
    People try to put us down
    Just because we get around

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    I'd say that if being found I out wasn't something you wanted to happen,the answer is yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by susan jackson View Post
    But presumably the law and peoples attitudes have changed a lot since those times
    While this is true, I can tell you from going to school for teaching that unfortunately, they haven't changed quite enough.

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