We have been on a twelve day trip to the island of Hawaii for our 30th anniversary. The final 6 days have been shared (in separate accommodations) with an eight year close female friend. Other than a brief dalliance with a pearl necklace (separately posted), this has been a totally en drab trip.
I offered my wife the opportunity of outing myself to our trusted friend which she declined. This would have provided her an outlet to talk about my CD. She has declined participation in professional counseling that might support my CD. I then offered that she could talk to me. (Something that we have mostly avoided by mutual acknowledgement of our diametrically opposed positions.)
She declined and said that CD was silly, immature and an avoidance of my gender role responsibilities. I smiled, kissed her and thanked her for the huge improvement in her attitude. Silliness and immaturity is a far better place than the religious overtones of the past (which may well still be there).
Is all I need to do to get a few days out per month is to buy an expensive Brooks Brothers Suit to church and other selected occasions. The other thing she mentioned is being ripped. This would demonstrate respect for my male gender role.
Three quarter sleeves on a nice dress can easily conceal my yet to be achieved male beach volleyball body. Thanks to my successful campaign at being a value added spouse, I have convinced my wife of my solid love for her. She gushes about her love for me and how lucky she is. We terminated the conversation with smiles and laughter until we get back to Michigan. Perhaps 2014 will bring a CD Treaty.