Today my GF and I were talking about some family issues of mine, and how my mom seems to think i need to get my validation from her. That and her incessant need to give me guilt trips.
I told my GF that I didn't need to get my validation from my mom because she is trying to validate all the wrong things. If I've learned nothing else from my crossdressing, is that carrying guilt for no reason accomplishes nothing.
My GF was wowed by me saying that. I used to carry around a LOT of guilt. I went on to explain to her that telling her about ALL my dressing, was a huge start in erasing my guilt. Then I had more guilt for just...being a cross dresser. After i unloaded the guilt of not telling her,I was able to be validated by her as a cross dresser through her Love for me.
Once I was guilt free, i could see how much guilt I used to slog around with. She commented that it must be an amazing feeling. And it is. I was able to let her know that the amount of Love, acceptance, and understanding i get from her makes me feel complete and validated.
Being free of the guilt has allowed me to grow as a person, as a boyfriend, as a father, and just asimportantly , as Caden.
So how many of you have managed to work past your guilt, and how did you manage it?