My wife and I had a discussion the other day. She was feeling a little worried about my crossdressing. Her big concern was that she didn't know where I was at with all this. We are each on a roller-coaster. My desire to wear women's clothing varies from day to day. Her level of understanding varies from day to day. The takeaway from the discussion was that we both need to communicate better. I proposed a 10 point scale that describes my mood at any given time that can act as a shorthand way of telling her where I'm at. If she wants to know, all she needs to do is ask for my number. We can do this in front of anyone without the need to find a private place to discuss things. (I'm only out to a couple people and it would be awkward to find privacy all the time.) Hopefully, this will smooth out her roller-coaster ride and give her some piece of mind.
I put a list together and added 0 and 11 for extreme cases. For some of you, the scale would exceed my own. I have no desire to go full time, let alone transition.
0- Hiatus. No desire to dress. Haven't had any in a while. Don't foresee having any in the near future.
1- No desire today. I prefer chopping wood or working on the car.
2- Underdressing.
3- Androgynous. A piece or two. Top, shoes, bra, or jewelry.
4- Clothes only.
5- Clothes and jewelry.
6- Clothes and wig.
7- Clothes, wig, and makeup.
8- Go outside in the (fenced) yard fully dressed.
9- Go out for an evening fully dressed.
10- Spend an entire day and evening fully dressed or go out of town for a crossdressing weekend.
11- Ack! Want to start outing myself.
This list is my first draft. The stages in my list are tailored to me as I see things right now. How would you build your list? (Assuming such a thing is possible for you.) I'm interested in any insight or suggestions you have. It would also be interesting to see a list from my wife's perspective. If any GG's have suggestions, please let me know.
BTW- I'm an 8 today.
Barbie 
Originally Posted by Shy_Confusion
