1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It helps me to express a part of me that can't stay hidden.

2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes, I've been open and honest with my wife about this since early on in our relationship.

3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I like to be in gal mode, but I'm not attracted to myself. On the other hand, I'm always attracted to my wife.

4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.
We've worked through this, and tried for a while with her referring to me as 'she', etc. and by my name Miriam. But that seems to detract from the reality that it's the same me either way. In private I'm always me - a guy - no matter how I'm dressed. In public expression it's Miriam, a gal, just to keep from attracting unwanted attention.

5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?
I tell her frequently how much I appreciate her acceptance and her assistance.

6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?
A wife that dresses stereotypically feminine? Not with wife #1 or this one. There are more important things. Not that I mind on those rare occasions when she does get femmed up though ;-)

7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you?
She has her own special interests, and I've been more than supportive for those. But that just goes with loving her and caring about what she cares about, just as she does for me.

8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male?
I have pierced ears - was very nervous at first since very few engineers in their fifties seem to have them, but it turned out to be a non-event. I also had laser hair removal for my face, but that's not really noticeable since I haven't had a beard or moustache for years anyway. I definitely feel at peace with them in guy mode and enjoy the options when I'm in gal mode.

9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ????
Not sure. I experimented with it early on, but since passed that along to my wife so she could use it. I use a much more subtle pallet that fits in to everyday life - my usual milieu for crossdressing.

10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting?
No way. There are so many things that are important to a relationship. But, after my divorce six years ago I made up my mind that I would never have another relationship where I had to hide something so important to me. It's not enough to make the relationship, but lack of acceptance would probably have been a deal breaker.

Miriam