Mmmmkay, first (obviously) I'm still new to the forums, so I hope this is an okay place to vent. If I'm off the mark or anything, just let me know.
I'm at a very weird spot right now... I've been in transition since early 2001, and am fluctuating between pre-op and non-op. I identify as lesbian and have a girlfriend of 8 months who identifies as bisexual; needless to say, she wasn't aware that I had been in transition until after a week of 'getting to know each other' before we started dating. Most people who know me would say that I'm quite feminine, and I would be inclined to agree with them inasmuch about how I'm perceived. I've always been open-minded enough to disregard the binary gender system for other people, but am starting to look at transgender issues (i.e. not specifically TS and not specifically 'male' or 'female') and am starting to wonder what the frag is going on in my head.
It started off simple enough, with me starting to get all cutesy a few months ago... I think it was an attempt to counter my partner's androgynous attitude and try to figure out a butch/femme thing in our relationship. But at the moment, I am really starting to loathe the cute-siness form of expression. I don't want to be male-bodied again (I like having a female body, regardless of whatever is 'down there'), but I don't want to follow the typical 'feminine woman' script that society has been cramming down my throat for the last 5 years either.
So... my brain itches from thinking about all of this... I'm not entirely sure where all of this is going... I want to deviate from the stereotypes, but I have no idea of what it is I'm shooting for.
Thoughts/similarities/comments?
Thanx for letting me vent,
Katie