In the closet

[Ressie]

I am 65 years old and have been dressing all of my life. Married for 45 years and now I want to come out and live as a female. Boy that is a hard thing to do. Not sure how to do it and not sure how it will be received by family. Divorce seems likely.

Jamie, I see you've been a member here for nearly 6 years. I don't know how one lives as a female after living 65 years as a male.

• I'm guessing you want to present as a woman in public every day?
• You're retired and want to do what's been on your mind all these centures right?
• Do you feel that you're a TS rather than a CD?
• Would this new life include dating men, women, other?

Maybe finding the right therapist would be the first step. Or maybe you should leave town for a weekend to give this idea a trial run. You would probably have to make up a reason for a weekend getaway to your wife or tell her the truth.

This makes me think of the movie "Normal" with Tom Wilkinson, but she made the decision after 25 years of marriage. Rent the DVD and watch it with your wife?

[sometimes_miss]

I would be very, very careful. Remember, all your assets as well as your social security and pension are community property, so in a divorce, half of everything will be gone. If you still have any kids in college, you may also be required to fully pay for all of their school expenses. On the bright side, you're of the age where there are plenty more single women than men, so you may be more likely to find another woman who will accept or at least tolerate your crossdressing, in return for your companionship. That's the one up side for men as we get old: Plenty of single women. The downside is that they're also old too, so unless you're rich, you won't get to live the dream of having a hot young woman as a SO.

[XemmaX]

hmmmm you need to talk to a therapist first and foremost, don't do anything brash. take it easy. 65 nowadays maybe older but you do have quite a few years ahead of you still so don't rush anything.