Hi, I am considering meeting this guy on CL whom I have talked for sometime, haven't met though. I am thinking about meeting him as a guy first before inviting him to my place.
Wondering if someone else have dated someone on Craigslist. How was the experience. Did it last for one night or you dated that person?
Always thought it was a bad idea myself.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I'll bite. I did, once. I met this couple. They were unusually literate for CL "shoppers." We had drinks, convo, and then migrated elsewhere. It was a fantastic evening.
I was expecting re-engagement, based on how things went. In fact, the lady of the couple claimed that I had forced her to "re-up her effort in the beauty department." I was flattered, and eventually she and I went shopping together for an afternoon. Nothing salacious. I was lead to believe that he had been okay with our trip, but near the end of the evening, she mentioned something about him being in a bad mood. After we went our separate ways, there wasn't much more contact. He must have perceived me as a threat. Sad, because I'm respectful enough to only be considered a serious threat to encourage her to buy a lot of shoes. Oh, well. It was great for a second.
The moral of this is that there are perfectly non-psychopathic people on CL. What percent they are? Hard to say. Caution is always a good idea. And let someone you trust know where you are going. Be smart, go with your gut, and I'd tend to think that chances are you'll be just fine.
Good luck!
Let me be one of the first to warn you to be carefull...that is a shady seedy place. Be for I go and tell you how bad of an idea this is I will say I HAVE met people from craigslist in the past (way past). Inviting a stranger to your house will open the door for future stalking...( jusssayin) You SHOULD meet in a public place first take and take your sweet a$$ time...just be smart REAL SMART...I used to tell a potential guy or cd friend that me and my other cd friends were all hanging out at a friends house and he was welcome to hang out with us ALL. ( This was a lie....to see if he had the balls to show up in a room full of cd's) and when he showed up he realized I was a smart gal protecting myself. Just be carefull...that is sooo not that way to go in 2014. I met 1 cd friend from there but she is a space cadet....and well....i wont kiss and tell on the rest...be smart
I would meet at a neutral place like at a coffee shop. Then only after you have a read and feel confident
about the person you invite them over to your house. Today, caution is the word to remember.
Rader
It all depends with how you roll. If you are street smart and can take care of yourself, like Paula Q's friend and other CDs, than it is a fine resource for dates. If you have any hesitation or concerns about it, it probably isn't your cup o' tea.
No matter where you end up dating, safety first!
I don't trust anyone on the the internet, another reason I don't give away my location.
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As has been mentioned, PLEASE be CAREFUL, CAREFUL, CAREFUL! I recommend a public place to meet, first. And maybe another couple of times, too. I'd chose a bar, or the like. Have a drink, but not too much, and judge for yourself. If you choose to meet them in private after that, I'd also let someone know about your plans. While this seems like a private encounter, you should share all the information you have about the suitor to a trusted friend who knows the details of any private meetings just in case. Morbid? Perhaps. Your safety is paramount, though.
Tess
Can I just be a girl already?! Please!
I had a cd friend who did this......Originally Posted by TessInJxn
My girlfriend does this a lot. She is more than capable of defending herself. Don't expect repeats or often even a real date. One night stands? Yes. Romance - probably not.
There are a LOT of chasers on CL.
If you've had a literate email exchange with the guy, and he hasn't sent you a pic of his junk, in the world of CL he's way above average.
Yes, meet him man to man first.
At a shoe store,
if he is a gentleman, he will buy you a pair of heels.
You can wear them on your first date........ or you can just score a pair of heels
Best. Idea. Ever.
More heels!
Steph
I have heard too many horror stories about meeting people from Craigslist, so I would never do such a thing and would advice everyone the same advice.
Yes I have, and I've met some cool guys that way, but you have to be sooooo careful: as some of the other girls have already pointed out, always make the first date for a public place like a Starbucks or public tennis court (I've posted pictures of myself in my tennis dress and dared guys to play with me) and make them send you a picture of themselves above the waist before you consider a meetup. Only then exchange email addresses and cell phone numbers, and it's a good idea to get to know a guy that way before you agree to go out with him. Even with those rules, expect to be bombarded by sickos. You have to be ruthless in separating the wheat from the chaff.
Yes, be careful!
*Jenny*
I've done it before but you have to be very very very careful....dependig on what you are lookinng for you can have a good time but honestly is not worth the risk, there are much better options
Oh Lord why would you even consider CL?
Recipe for disaster I would think, just join a trans group and forget about being so hard up to use CL.
Never in a million years!
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Personally I would struggle meeting anyone from Craigs list on this level. BE CAREFUL.
So true....any girl from this forum who I see post regulary...I wouldnt think twice about hanging out with...you are all ok in my book.It takes courage just to be here .
xoxo
This is perfect advice for the procedure to employ with a CL users. I have posted my own personal on CL a couple of times, and each time have gotten an incredible number of responses. The full length clothed body shot and closeup face picture requirement probably eliminated 75-80%. I'd guess that 75% of the remainder were afraid to be seen in public with a crossdresser, so that when I actually got around to meeting face to face in real time, there were maybe 3 or 4 people out of a hundred responses. From that point on, it's no different than meeting at a bar or the local LGBT alliance social. Regarding Windycissy's comment about daring them to play tennis: I have found that as a physically fit, fiftyish Trans Girl, most of the guys who are in my age group have more reason to be scared of me than vice versa. Maybe expanding the screening process to include a requirement that the responders be in good enough shape to play tennis would be a good idea.
Well for me I have tried to meet Another CD on CL As I am not much into bars ( Sorry it is just me ) and local LGBT have not got a clue about any So I tried CL
have e mailed a lot more about helping other CD being a better CD Like how to dress and always meet in a safe place ect ect
the Only person I did meet was a bitter /sweet experience for me I gave a wig dress and heels to help but I guess I was to conservative or boaring if I may
have not talked since
I would like to take a CD shopping or sit down dinner I am to tall to pass but if I could help another CD pass as well as feel safe while she is out I would be happy for Her as well
Shopping Anyone ?
after all I do have a weakness for a nice dress or sweater and skirt to the knees with classic high heel pumps
Never met anyone, just seems too unsafe. I'm sure there's better ways of doing things, and avoiding the inevitable chasers that are out there.
Define "DATE"..lol Whatever you are looking for,don't do it at home!!!!
Last edited by DAVIDA; 02-26-2014 at 06:54 AM. Reason: There is no need to quote the OP.
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Honestly I wouldn't waste my time. It's a seedy creep fest on there. If you are going to meet him DO NOT BRING HIM HOME! Not until you know him well at least. Think like a woman would when meeting a guy for the first time. She's going to be very cautious. You should be too. How long you have been talking to him has no bearing. Creeps will do whatever they can for as long as they can to get what they want. BE CAREFUL!
